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Mastermind WhatsApp Group

I have created a Mastermind WhatsApp Group

especially for conscious female entrepreneurs

who want to learn, grow and contribute. This Mastermind WhatsApp Group supports you to grow your self-employment to a self-running enterprise and make you free to work exclusively in the field of your passion.

The coaching letters in this Mastermind WhatsApp Group encourage an exchange of ideas, thoughts, and experiences for your growth and inspire other group members. You will receive two or three topics per week to inspire your thinking time. Mostly by sharing only short headlines with a link to the blog which handles the subject in depth. The participation is free of charge and for female entrepreneurs only.

So, if you are a female entrepreneur and interested to participate in this group:

Please follow this link to join the WhatsApp Mastermind group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/

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Struggling Between Me And My Kids

Some days ago, I had an interesting conversation about

“struggling between me and my kids”

with a wonderful lady. And she was willing to publish our conversation. Because she wants to contribute to other women, who might be in a similar situation. And I agree, I guess there are a lot of them around.

– Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, …

Klaus Forster: So true, if you give up yourself for others, means you don’t love yourself enough. One can do that from time to time, but doing it all the time, it turns into a burn out in the long run.

– but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.

Klaus Forster: A lack of time is always the result of unclear priorities. E. g. because we do a lot of things, which are just our habits but do not serve us. Time is fair: Everybody gets 24 h per day. Some people have time, others are always under stress and claim that they have to little time. Setting better priorities is the key: https://vitality4happiness.com/are-you-setting-the-right-priorities/

– Like I have saved some money for my yoga teacher training, but the reason why I am not registered yet because I wait in case my daughter will need the money for her university.

Klaus Forster: A lack of money is always a symptom, never the cause. So start digging deeper and find all the problems, put them in a sequence, which one is depending on another one. You may want to write them on some PostIt stickers so that you easily move them until the sequence makes sense. Then have someone have a look at it, you can send me a photo of it, and we can discuss it. Everybody has a blind spot, and for someone else, the reason is often obvious. Here is the story of how I realized what my blind spot was: https://vitality4happiness.com/how-a-mastermind-group-works/

– What is a blind spot?

Klaus Forster: Some problem or behavior someone can’t recognize and solve by himself, but for others the problem and its solution are obvious.

– So I have 4 kids, divorced, my ex-husband does not support me, he was unemployed during our 10 years of marriage and still unemployed now.

Klaus Forster: I think you got strong male energy, and he wasn’t able to compete with that. So he lost your respect. (I am speaking from experience 😉 This sounds to me like the end of the love of my life). It was cozy and comfortable for him having you taking care of everything. Did you do the test about male/female energy: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient

A relationship needs both. If the woman has stronger masculine energy than the man (what happened to me) the loss of respect is the result, then it gets ugly.

So the solution is: Find a partner who got stronger male energy than yours.

– I did, I have female energy, life taught me a hard life that shaped me into what I am.

Klaus Forster: I am not sure, maybe we discovered a blind spot?

– Anyway, I told my 1st daughter to talk to his father to see if he could help her with her tuition this year, as I will enroll her sister this year. Last year we agreed to share our 1st daughter tuition but none, he did nothing.

Klaus Forster: You are putting the responsibility to your daughter. And this is a wonderful thing, especially at her age. They want to be treated as a partner, not as a child anymore. So if she can’t make him pay for it, encourage her to find another solution. Work part-time, scholarship, become an entrepreneur, … (actually, I like the last idea the best!)

– So waiting for his participation, I delay my teacher training.

Klaus Forster: If you consider yourself as waiting, you will wait forever. Increase your pain, imagine what will happen in the worst case, find out why you need to make a change, make it a MUST. Then think about the target and take the first step in its direction. The earlier the better. Already after the first few steps the pressure and pain will go away. But the pain is good in the beginning. It makes you move: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-drive-for-massive-change/

– I know the priority should be on me, …

Klaus Forster: You already understood it!

– because I am the breadwinner, I am gonna need the certificate to teach formally (I have taught some friends, but I know having the certificate is safer), but I don’t have a deadline in getting it, while my daughter has (in paying the university tuition). But the fact that I delay the teacher training kinda frustrates me as I am looking forward to this.

Klaus Forster: 4 times “but” in this sentence means you are making excuses for yourself = being arrested in your own prison: https://vitality4happiness.com/escape/

  • Any advice on how I should handle this? The depression and anxiety kinda attack me as I am waiting for this to go through.

Klaus Forster: Depression is always a result of low self-confidence. As I know you, I think you are feeling depressed only once in a while, and not permanently. So it is not critical and you are most likely able to help yourself out of it. You already acknowledged this: https://vitality4happiness.com/confidence-by-jenny-verano/

The next step is to do the first step. Define your target, increase your pain, take the first few steps utilizing pain as the driver to get started. If the target or the first steps are not perfect, it doesn’t matter, you can correct the direction on the way. It is essential to building up momentum, that keeps you going even through difficult situations. But soon, you will see the first successes and then pleasure will replace the pain and makes you go for the long run: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-energy-to-make-dreams-come-true/

 

 

Klaus Forster: You are writing: I am building her business …

She should build her …

It is a method of leadership if you think you have to do it, or she has to do it.

Actually, if you think YOU have to do it: This is already a reason why you don’t have enough time.

A good leader works less than his/her employees.

And it starts, with the way you think about it.

– First I’m building it, then she slowly jumped in, I told her on her 19 birthday, I will give it to her and she would be responsible as I will stop supporting her financially. That will be in August.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

 

 

 

Klaus Forster: Sorry, I don’t understand what it means. Your initial statement was:

“Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.”

I understood it like this: the (lack of) time influences/sets the priorities.

How does it deal with a payment deadline?

 

 

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

 

 

Klaus Forster: I have the feeling you are very active. And you are keeping a lot of balls in the air at the same time. If you can’t see the progress anymore and even feel sometimes depressed:

It is time to take a break, to avoid running into a burnout.

The momentum you build will show results after a short break, e. g. 1 week.

The distance will allow you to reprioritize, which gives you more time in the future.

When getting back, you will see how little needs to be done, you probably can get everything done what wasn’t possible to do without you in half a day! Which shows you, which tasks you can transfer to other people (transfer a task means to delegate including the responsibility for the results)

You will learn that the system does not collapse if you are away, which supports your confidence.

 

 

Klaus Forster: When I went to Germany in January my employee was in this situation as well. It took me 3 days to realize, what the problem was. You can be proud of yourself, that you can say it so clear. I sent him for one week on vacation, bought him and his girlfriend a ticket and told him to switch off the mobile phone.

So what I described above is not theory: I saw that as a result of his abstinence, as well from my own experience. As I describe in the free chapter:

“The freedom to work from wherever you want”

https://vitality4happiness.com/networking-at-dream-beaches-the-freedom-of-a-digital-nomads-life/

 

 

Klaus Forster: This sounds like you are not living according to your own values. That costs a lot of energy and leads into a burnout.

So first of all: Are you aware of your values?

Do your values serve you?

Probably not best possible. The good news is: Values are like software, you can change them!

What would be a better set of values, that serve you better?

Implement them and live them and your energy will come back.

I think you have love, contribution and perfectionism ranked pretty high in your values. Especially perfectionism leads to a lot of work and a lack of time. And with contribution ranked too high, it is likely that others abuse you and suck your energy and money as your ex-husband did.

 

 

Klaus Forster: Maybe I underestimated how critical your situation is. If it is really that bad, you might need a psychiatrist. This is not a shame! It rather would be a shame if a wonderful person would leaf this world too early, just because of a depression, which is not treated well.

In this case, it might go beyond my capabilities to support you with that. I am not trained on that.

– that is what I’m doing now. I am building her business under my organization. Now I start asking her to attend training and do admin stuff.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

– with my kids, I have to pay their tuition by July, I got 2 kids in university this year

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

-Yes. I’m thinking of using the money as down payment to buy a car which they can use to grab driver, all the money will be used to pay the credit and gas and they take the rest. They said ok.

 

 

– Actually, I am taking a break now… I am away, it is my second day and while I’m away I gave my daughter some responsibilities and I could see she managed to delegate to her sisters, which is good she learn to lead

Klaus Forster: The best school she can get! Excellent idea, and if you give people more responsibility their intelligence explodes (= grows a lot)!

– oh yes.

Klaus Forster: If you don’t feel good after your break, get professional help. Because I feel at the limit of my competence at this point.

Anyway, I am more than happy to support you in any entrepreneurial development and also the development of the mindset as a basis for that. But I know where my limits are.

– no, like you said It is not permanent. I’m taking a break and felt better now knowing my daughter start taking responsibility

Klaus Forster: 👍

 

Following up one day later:

Klaus Forster: Good morning

How do you feel this morning?

– Good morning Klaus, I feel better, just did my morning walk, breakfast and resting a bit before yoga a bit later. How are you?

Klaus Forster: I read what we discussed yesterday, and I am impressed by how clear you are able to analyze your situation!

– I am usually very aligned with my self, know what I want and pursue it. I just need to remind my self that there are things you can not control, other people behavior. And when you help them, stop at helping, do not expect they understand what you are doing let alone expect them to do what you do.

And I need to remind my self that when depression kick in, just acknowledge, and let it go, I don’t need to spoil it.

Klaus Forster: I already thought about that: in the yoga teacher class you will learn a lot about: let go

I can imagine that you are also suffering from the fear to let go of your kids … but at their age, it is time to do so and it is the best present you can give them. Even if not initially, they will be grateful one day and love you for that even more.

– funny you mention self love, that is what we encourage women.

Klaus Forster: Thank you for inspiring me for this

– in our tribe, glamour, and purpose, that self-love and self-care are very important. Thank you for listening to me, advising and writing it.

Klaus Forster: That is what advertising tells us, but that’s not self-love. That is pimping the outside. Even if you are unhappy inside. Self-love is about a mindset.

– Everything is mindset I guess: So the bottom line is how to train your mindset, from fix to growth mindset

Klaus Forster: So true. Thank you for the interview.

Sad Mood - Snap out of it

Sad Mood – Snap out of it

Sad mood?

The weekend is always a good time to look back on your achievements during the last week. Yesterday I had an emotionally pretty shitty day with a sad mood. 🤬 I think that happens to everyone once in a while. So my question was: How to snap out of it?

I realized that I needed to snap out of it. To get rid of my sad mood, I analyzed the best decisions in my life. Actually, most of them were pretty hard to make. And I came up with a list of 13 decisions, I made in the past. First of all, I added all of them to my success journal. Doing so gave me back a lot of my energy. Because it made me aware, that oneself puts down the seeds for one’s successes!

To snap out of it

I want to encourage you, to think about the best decisions in your life. And to write them down. If you are smarter than me, and I guess that you are,  you will do it, before you get into a sad mood. Because it doesn’t need a bad day to do so, it actually should be much easier to do it on a good day. 😆 But if you are already in a sad mood, this exercise will help you to snap out of it!

I came up with a list of my best decisions:

As a second step to snap out of it

Change your sad mood into energy

Bring the list in of your best decisions a sequence. That should be pretty easy. My list looks like that now:

  • 2008 getting divorced
  • 2009 founding Rooms4Music
  • 2011 reading 📖 “Der Weg zum erfolgreichen Unternehmer”
  • 2012 focusing on health, making it my #1 value
  • 2013 visiting Tony Robbins seminars
  • 2014 visiting Bodo Schäfer Seminars
  • 2015
    • monogamy is a fallacy
    • selling my house in Ludwigsburg, Germany
  • 2016
    • putting money on the stock market
    • participating in the workation in Bali
    • spending the majority of my time in Bali
  • 2017
    • leaving Germany and moving to Hanoi
    • putting Rooms4Music in Chris’s hands
  • 2018 bringing Rooms4Music back onto the success path and cutting costs

Now it becomes a bit more difficult, but it is an effective

Treatment of a sad mood, to snap out of it:

Analyze if you can see a pattern, which carried from one decision to the next, from one level of your development to the next higher level. I found it helps if you add the outcome of your decisions to the list.

  • 2008 getting divorced = Found the love of my life and shared the best years of my life with her.
  • 2009 founding Rooms4Music = becoming independent from my job in 2012 and living entrepreneurial freedom
  • 2011 reading 📖 “Der Weg zum erfolgreichen Unternehmer” = turning my self-employment into a self-running enterprise
  • 2012 focusing on health as my #1 value = discovered running as my new passion, started yoga and improved my movability and flexibility especially in my mind

The biggest change in my mindset and to snap out of it was

  • 2013 visiting Tony Robbins seminars = understood the psychology of people better, especially my own, I realized that freedom (of mind, traveling, sexual, financial) is my highest value
  • 2015
    • visiting Bodo Schäfer Seminars = developed my plan for financial freedom, an investment strategy, and  asset allocation
    • selling my house in Ludwigsburg, Germany = became financially independent
    • monogamy is a fallacy = freedom of mind, sexual freedom, much more relaxed and natural relationships with women, sharing and enjoying more tantric energy than I ever dreamed of
  • 2016
    • putting money on the stock market =
      • I started trading and becoming an investor,
      • started to enjoy the volatility of the market.
      • Finally, I learned to stay calm, if the market is going against my expectation and
      • becoming financially independent.
    • participating in the workation in Bali = falling in love with Bali and the idea of working location independent
    • spending the majority of my time in Bali = living my dream and making 2017 the best year of my life
  • 2017
  • 2018 bringing Rooms4Music back onto the success path and cutting costs. =
    • Making 2018 to the most successful year in terms of
      • turnover,
      • profit and as a result of that
      • the value of the enterprise.

Prevention of sad mood

Now comes the real challenge:

After you did this analysis, extrapolate to the next decision. That will carry you to the next level of your development. Chose one or two new ones, which is the most charming for you, and take a decision. This will help you to prevent you from getting into a sad mood. I am not promising you, that you will never ever get back into a sad mood again. But as long as you got clarity of your direction due to your decision, it is pretty unlikely to fall back into it. If it still appears, it just means, you are not focussing on it anymore, or it is time to go through the procedure once again.

If you want some more background information and inspiration for that, listen to

That will give you some understanding of how it psychologically works and encourage you to take the next step. But you don’t need to understand it, to use the procedure. Likewise, you don’t need to understand how a gearbox works, to be able to drive a car.

For me the next decisions are:

  • living a happy vital life of physical and mental fitness of 150+ years
  • developing Rooms4Music into a 10.000.000 € company

Remember, not achievement, but

Steady growth is the source of everlasting happiness!

Deep Breathing Exercise

Deep Breathing Exercise: Getting Around With 2-4 Hours of Sleep a Day – Part 2


In part 1 of this post I described, that I expected on the 4th day I will make it. But when I got to sleep for my 4 a.m. sleep, I slept all the way through to 9 a.m.

Day 5

It worked almost all night, after sticking to my schedule during the day, but I had a long sleep between 4 and 8 am. It was the first time since I started the experiment, that I had a very productive day. I felt relatively fit during my awake phases, which was hardly ever the case in the first 4 days of this experiment.

Due to the fact, that I slept in the past usually about 8-10 hours a day, sleeping 4 times a day for 30 Minutes and once for 4 hours is already a big step, which gives me 2 to 4 additional hours per day, or 1.000 hours a year. This is more than half the time people with a 9 to 5 job on a 5-day working week spend at work!

I am still not used to it, but I want to make it a habit, so I want to go on. I have to do it still consciously and it needs a lot of discipline to lay down on time and get up according to the schedule, even if I still feel tired after my nap.

If it is physically implemented as a habit, what is approximately after 21 days the case, it should become automatic and easy. But if you count each awake phase as a day, you are already at the 4th day done, but it does not feel like that.

1-4-2 deep breathing exercise

After trying different things how to fall asleep quickly, I found that the 1-4-2 deep breath exercise worked the best.

I used the deep breathing exercise in combination with tightening my pelvic floor while imagining the kundalini energy flows up along the backbone into the crown chakra. During deep breathing in, I relaxed my pelvic floor and I tightened it while holding the breath and breathing out. This is a kind of Progressive Muscle Relaxation technique.

Deep Breathing Exercise

Deep breathing exercises help to fall asleep  and wake up quickly

Additionally, I kept using a progressive breathing method, by reducing the breathing frequency with each breath. So I extended the number of heartbeats for each breathing phase:

  • 1st breath:
    • 4 heartbeats of a deep breath in
    • 16 heartbeats holding the breath
    • 8 heartbeats breathing out
  • 2nd breath:
    • 5 heartbeats of a deep breath in
    • 20 hold
    • 10 out
  • 3rd: 6-24-12
  • 4th: 7-28-14
  • 5th: 8-32-16
  • 6th: …

I guess you got the pattern?!

Mostly within 5 to 8 deep breaths, I am falling asleep, during the phase in which I hold the breath, waking up again from the respiratory reflex. As soon as that happens, I just continued breathing normally and subconsciously. Then it is only a matter of a second until I am falling asleep. You can use this, of course, also if not on the 2-4 hour sleeping plan, but anytime you got problems to fall asleep.

Doing so I managed to sleep on the ferry, while waiting for public transport, after sunset at the beach bar, and on the sunbed at the pool.

Day 6

I changed the approach to two alarms per sleeping phase and just used one to go to sleep. Too often it was not possible to sleep right away, which always required to readjust the wake-up time. So for the wake-up time, I used a timer, which I set to 30 minutes as soon as I started my sleeping phase, which turned out to be much more flexible.

Breath of fire deep breathing exercise

I kept feeling better during the wake time, and the time to get back to power got a bit shorter. To wake up I tried a Bikram yoga deep breathing exercise called “breath of fire”.

If available jumping in the pool, going for a run and get up to speed with a coffee also helps. Due to the variety of the methods and that it got better in general, I cannot say which method works the best. So just “listen to your breath”, as the yogis used to say.

Day 7

I thought it’s my first day, sticking to the schedule, but then a new challenge appeared. I will keep you posted how I fucked it up …

Further, I will record a video about this breathing pattern and provide you with an mp3-audio file download so that you can also utilize it, even if you are not online.