How Self Love Helps

How Self Love Helps to Make Your Dreams Come True

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Do you want the pain of discipline?

Or do you want the pain of regret?

How Self Love Helps: If you are disciplined, it shows that you love your self.


Source: Actualized.com
The content of this video about How Self Love Helps, that touched me the most:

  • To love yourself is really hard work.
  • Mostly we have one aspect of our selves, that we don’t like. And we look at it through a magnifying glass. Accept it, change it if you can or don’t focus at it anymore.
  • Here is an easy exercise to love myself unconditionally, because I am the most valuable person in the world. Look in my mirror and give me all the love by telling myself 20 times:

“I love and accept myself exactly as I am.”

You probably want to write this on the mirror in your bathroom.

How Self Love Helps

Priming yourself with Incantations

Your life is like a helicopter, you can fly anywhere you want. What is holding you back from it?

How Self Love Helps

How Self Love Helps to Escape!

 

 

Mindset about money

Mindset About Money

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How to get a beneficial mindset about money

Build a basis for your wealth

There are 3 factors about your mindset about money that influence your financial situation:

  1. Mindset – what you believe about money
  2. Strategy – your plan to manage it
  3. Actions – what you actually do about it

Mindset about moneyIf you want to change your financial situation you need to master all 3 disciplines. But your mindset has the biggest influence, about 60 to 70%! The actions you take, have the lowest influence, about 10 to 20% and this is where most people spent the most attention to. But as long as they have a fixed mindset or false belief about money, they will sabotage their actions. Due to that, let’s start with the mindset.

If you read the article “Escape“, you may remember that you can believe what you want and that everything you believe is your truth: So whenever you think “money is the problem”, it is your truth that money is the problem! I think this is not a very beneficial belief for anyone.
Whenever you think “money is the solution”, money is no problem anymore. I consider this a much more beneficial belief or mindset. So let’s take a little step today moving in this direction.

Your individual truth

Everybody believes something different, so everyone got his own truth. This is due to your individual perspective, culture, education, experiences, likes, and dislikes. Some of our beliefs help us and with some of our beliefs we limit ourselves.

So the questions are:

  • How do I recognize a belief which is not beneficial?
    Each belief that shows us, that we don’t love money limits us in getting our finances sorted out.
  • How can we change our mindset (what we believe) into something which is more beneficial for us?
    There are 3 ways to change what we believe:
  1. Stories that show the opposite of what I’m currently believing and that draw the picture from a different perspective. This is what I am doing when I’m sending you a link to one of the videos.
  2. Incantations, I will come back to that later, because this is the easiest way, to do it by yourself.
  3. NLP-process, which is similar to a guided meditation. NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. You find an example below, which is about changing your mindset about money. It shall help you to imagine your blooming and wealthy future. The best time to listen to it is before you fall asleep, and if you are falling asleep during listening, it doesn’t matter, just listen to it tomorrow and the day after again and again, enjoy!

You might want to listen to it with headphones for better concentration.

How a Mastermind Group Works

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Please let me share this experience of our mastermind group with you to explain, how a mastermind group works:

At a business retreat in Bali, held in April / May 2016 we were analyzing our strengths, biggest fun, passion, and dreams, and every mastermind participant tried to find out based on this analysis, what her or his driving values are. During the discussion about it, we asked everybody to guess the highest rated value of all of the other participants. Most of the guesses where pretty accurate. But in my case, every one of the other participants guessed a value, I did not find on my list. My list only contained: health, love, and growth.

How a Mastermind Group Works

But to my big surprise, everyone came up with „freedom“ as my most obvious first value. And after thinking about it, I understood, they are right. It was obviously written in fat capital letters on my forehead so that I wasn’t able to read it. And I was already living so much freedom, that I didn’t feel it as a driving force in my life. So they helped me to understand myself better.

Everybody has a blind spot like this. The participants of a mastermind group or a business retreat help each other to find the blind spots. If you get aware of your blind spot, you usually can make a big improvement with relatively little effort.

Members of a mastermind group need to be completely honest with each other, even if this might bring up facts, you don’t want to know about. Apart from that, they share their experience how they handle similar issues, to make the next step to improve your situation easier. So the big benefit of participating in a mastermind is, having a support team on your side, that helps to make you and your business grow.

Don’t forget, not the achievement, but growth is the source of happiness.

That’s why experience how a mastermind group works,

and join today
How a Mastermind Group Works

 

I Dreamed a Dream

I Dreamed a Dream: Speed vs. Direction

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Most of the time we are in a hurry to make faster progress

I dreamed a dream, but in which direction am I running?

Often we consider speed as more essential than direction. If speed is more quintessential than direction, we most likely will be ending up earlier in a situation we don’t want! That’s why I keep doing the following exercise over and over again, on average about once a month.

“What is a target you really want to reach?”

You might think: “I dreamed a dream”, but be honest with yourself, dig deeper into what is missing the most in your life, what do you dream of? Make your dream bigger, make it amazingly big. Imagine your dream in blooming colors, turn it into a target by writing it down as precise as possible, be specific, put a date, a value, numbers, and facts to it to turn it into a target, because dreams are fiction, targets are a fixed point. The sharper your description is, the better it guides you toward its way.

To do so, put yourself in a cozy position. Have something ready to write it down, listen to some inspiring music or choose complete quietness. If it helps you to think freely, choose a point with a good view into the distance, over the ocean, which represents your future, e.g. at the beach, from a balcony, a mountain, an elevated outlook point, …

Give yourself as much time as it needs, at least one hour on your own. There is no rush to find your target. Think, imagine, and write it down, keep on writing until you cannot describe it any more precise and blooming. If you think you are finished, ask yourself:

“And what do I want beyond that?”

Write it all down. Writing it in the mobile phone notes app works the best for me, because I have it always with me, and I can re-read it each time I am relaxing, want to refocus or when I have the feeling I might get off track. Additionally, I can re-edit it,  to increase its attractiveness by describing it even more blooming and colorful. By doing so I stay focused and my fix point becomes more energy.

I am not promising you that just thinking about it will bring your there, you got to take action! Just running without a target lets you run very efficiently in circles, never bringing you to the point where you want to be. But taking action after thinking about your dream and focusing on your target, helps you to take more effective steps.


Nor I promise you that you will have the everlasting ultimate pleasure of achieving your target. But the good news is:

You shall have a lot of fun already on the way
because happiness is based on growth!

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Hopeless Plan of Financial Independence

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Most people think money is the reason, which makes it impossible to make their dream come true.

And I did so as well:

After I finished studying in 1988 I traveled for 4 months to Australia to escape the winter in Germany, because I hate it. To do so I got a job for half a year and saved every penny. The complete trip did cost me about 12.000 DM (German Marks, which was the currency in Germany in those days). And I got the idea of financial independence. This means I have so much money in the bank, that I can live and travel from the interest. I had no idea how to get there, but a dream was born. It turned out in my hopeless plan of financial independence.

My financial independence calculations

  • travelling and financial independenceBased on that I calculated that I needed about 3,000,000 for my financial independence. DM to live on interest and travel in that style without working based on 4-5 % interest rates.
  • 10 years later I got married and expected that I will need 4,500,000 DM for my financial independence.
  • One year later my daughter turned up. And I expected, that 6,000,000 DM would be required.
  • Additionally, the interest rates dropped and I calculated that I needed 10,000,000 DM to become financially free.
  • Additionally, the Euro replaced the DM. And I thought I only needed 5,000,000 € now.
  • But prices rose, at the same time and interest rates dropped further. And now I needed 10 Mil. € for the financial independence with the whole family.
  • And nowadays interest rates are 0% in Germany. So it seems like it got impossible to live on interest.


Source: www.actualized.org Thank you, Leo, I couldn’t express it any better!

So my hopeless plan of financial independence became a bit more realistic

Meanwhile, I learned how to get earnings of 8-10% (on a long-term average) by investing money smarter than in a savings account. And only half a million € lasts to be financially independent at a low level to pay for my kids and my basic needs. Prices of flight tickets dropped. Then I fell in love with Bali. And the cost of living is much lower there, so it lasts even less than I expected.

Turning financial independence into financial freedom

I own a company, which I built up in 8 years and turned it into a self-learning enterprise. This pays me for those basic needs. I structured it in a way that it works almost without me. So I can stay away for months. So, I live from the dividend. And I can see my assets growing with the market. Because I am invested in ETFs of major indices. This kind of long-term investment is easy to understand, low on costs and maintenance, and performs better than most of the managed fonts. So my assets keep growing, while I can enjoy traveling.

travelling based on financial independence

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Priming with Incantations

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Incantations or affirmations are a priming exercise to change your mindset. I usually do priming with incantations while jogging or during my warm up in the gym. In this video, I am explaining some examples of my favorite incantations. Try it out yourself and enjoy!

priming with incantations

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? 

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? 

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How to get around with max. 7 kg of luggage

Since mid-2017 I am traveling with carry-on luggage only, whenever I am going on a flight. This means you need to know, how many ounces can you bring on a plane? To stay below the 7 kg or 15 pounds limit of the airline, and depending on the type of airplane, sometimes it is only 5 kg on domestic flights.

Traveling minimalistic = freedom

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? Travel with light luggage is very convenient and this minimalism gives me a feeling of freedom. For me, it’s not the freedom to buy and keep everything I want. I rather save the money an live on its interest. In fact, the most material stuff keeps dragging us down. It rather satisfies the need for security, but this is a fallacy:

  • If the tiger spots the two of us, who can run faster?
  • You with a lot of luggage or me with a little?
  • Wouldn’t it be smart to leave it all behind?

That’s ok in the jungle, but not if you are in a hurry running to your gate, after getting stuck in a traffic jam on the way to the airport, in case the security control took ages or after hopping on the wrong tube on my way to London Gatwick airport. I experienced that last year and it was convenient to run to the check-in counter – it was even less convenient that the gate was already closed by the time I arrived.

Reduction of luggage saves resources and money, due to the trend that most budget airlines ask you pay extra already for the first piece of check-in luggage, some of them up to 40 €. So it saves you 80 € on a return trip. For that kind of money, you can buy the things from the drug store at your destination e. g. sun protection, insect repellant, shampoo or toothpaste, a second pair of shoes, another pair of pants and a rain cape in rainy season if needed. You can leave all of it behind on your way back. In most Asian countries those items are anyway much cheaper than in Europe.

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? 

The international size limitations in economy class are mostly:

  • one bag
  • up to 7 kg and
  • a size of 55 cm x 36 cm x 23 cm, or 22 inches * 14 inches * 9 inches
  • which slightly varies depending on the airline, here some examples:
Cathay Pacific 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 56cm x 36cm x 23cm 7kg
China Airlines 1 cabin bag 56cm x 36cm x 23cm 7kg
Emirates 1 cabin bag 55cm x 38cm x 20cm 7kg
Etihad Airways 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 50cm x 40cm x 25cm 7kg
Fiji Airways 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 55cm x40cm x 23cm 7kg
Garuda Indonesia 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 56cm x 36cm x 23cm 7kg
Japan Airlines 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 55cm x 40cm x 25cm 10kg
Jetstar 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 55cm x 36cm x 23cm 7kg
KLM 1 cabin bag 55cm x 35cm x 25cm 12kg
Lufthansa 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 55cm x 40cm x 23cm 8kg
Malaysia Airlines 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 55cm x 35cm x 25cm 7kg
Qantas 1 cabin bag + 1 personal item 48cm x 34cm x 23cm 7kg

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? 

How to reduce your luggage by another 2 kg?

How many ounces can you bring on a plane? I found a way to reduce the weight of your luggage by another 2 kg, to get even on a flight with a 5 kg limitation. This trick shown in the video can be used as well to reduce the weight of the luggage from 9 kg to 7 kg, e. g. on the way back home if you added some souvenirs to your luggage. So far it worked for me always, even on the airlines, who don’t explicitly allow one additional personal item.

how many ounces can you bring on a plane

Navigation at your destination

To be able to navigate with Google Maps upon arrival, independent from a WiFi/UMTS connection, it is necessary to download the maps onto your mobile phone before your departure, preferably using a WiFi connection. This video explains how to do it:

Healthy Food Mix

Healthy Food Mix that serves your body and mind the best

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Which combination of food serves your body and mind the best?

Healthy Food MixIn 2017 I lived for 4 months with my friend in Hanoi. She ate strictly vegan. I was not convinced, but to make things easy, I shared her diet most of the time. It seems like it turned out into a Healthy Food Mix. When I came back to Germany and met a friend, she made me a big compliment:

“Klaus, what did you do with your skin, it looks so clean, did you turn into a vegetarian?”

Motivated like that, I kept learning about nutrition that serves my health, body, and mind. And I found out some pretty curious things about food. Based on that I changed my diet like this:

Healthy Food Mix in a Nutshell

3 Basics of a Healthy Food Mix

  1. The most essential resource for our body is oxygen. We die after a few minutes without it. The key to getting more of it into our body is deep breathing, which you can learn and practice e.g. in yoga classes, meditation or any kind of aerobic sports. And you can make it a habit, by training deep breathing over and over again.
  2. Water, about 70% of our body weight is water, and if we lose only 2 % we got already 10% less energy. So drinking every 2 hours one glass of pure water (without sugar or carbonate – no lolly drinks) keeps you well hydrated and full of energy, plus food with a high water content, which is vegetables, salad, and fruits.
  3. Healthy Food MixAnd here comes a surprise for most people: fats from vegetarian sources, like high-quality cold processed oils, nuts, avocado, coconut, etc., are the third essential part of our nutrition! Our brains contain 30% of fat. This is the opposite to what I learned in school: Carbohydrate does not keep us running, but fat does. Because a healthy body is a fat burning machine. Fat which is high on Omega 3 and 6 is the best fuel and brain food we can get. And different than what one might expect, fats DO NOT make you gain weight, at least as long as you don’t eat too much carbohydrate at the same time. The combination of fat and plenty of water supports your body to detox, by washing out the waste. This results in a clean skin.

Substantials of a Healthy Food Mix

  1. Protein: That’s so easy, if the majority of your food is vegetarian, like vegetables, salad, fruits, smoothies, you are already done! It is easy to digest, so you always got enough protein.
  2. Avoid sugar and deep-fried food, reduce carbohydrate, because it makes your body acid. A healthy body is alkaline and if you eat green food like vegetables and salad, all is good.

A diet like that is pretty easy! Apart from the health benefits, nowadays I feel as fit as I never felt before in my life. Plus it saves a lot of time and money. I reduced the cost of food and drinks about 30%. On top, I earned a lot of time because it is quick and easy to prepare.

Is it easy to follow the healthy food mix strictly?

That’s not necessary at all. I usually go for a “junk food day” on Saturdays. Which makes it really easy to stick to the diet for the rest of the week. On junk food day everything is allowed: carbohydrate, sugar, meat, deep fried food, drugs, alcohol, nicotine, and sex. Okay, I’m not so reserved with the latter anyway. But someday I definitely will write a blog about Tantric energy and its health benefits, probably called:

Healthy Food Mix

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Learning at the Business Retreat – Escape The Trap of Your Self-Employment

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You will be learning at the business retreat, how to escape the trap of your self-employment.

Tun on Subtitles and switch the language to English in the youtube settings, as described here: Learning at the Business Retreat

Learn in this video about the daily routine at the business retreat

The day started mostly with sports, after breakfast each day another participant reported about the tools and strategies he used for his business, so the other participants were able to model these ideas.
At the business retreat, we will have learning programs about
– exploring your values
– the uniqueness of your business that fits you and
– marketing.
The learning blocks will be 3 days each, with a 2-day break. Because the growth takes place during the relaxation – of course, only if one got exhausted before.

Learn more about Networking at Dream Beaches

Learning at the Business Retreat

Learning at the Business Retreat

Have a Nice Sleep: Getting Around With 2-4 Hours of Sleep a Day – Part 5

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After having the best year of my life, due to my birthday, I came up with a resolution. To make the next year an even better one. And the first thing that came to my mind was: I only can have fun while I am awake. So I got this sleeping experiment started.

Have a nice sleep in Weeks 3 to 5

Simplifying the sleeping pattern

After taking one day of the sleeping pattern, which was on my junk food day, it was a bit harder to get back to the sleeping pattern. But I had the day with the shortest bedtime throughout the sleep experiment, with 4:30 hours bedtime only. So here comes my review, how to make it easy and how to have a nice sleep. To get started with a sleep rhythm like this, it is helpful to have the freedom to schedule your time. Anyway, it takes a lot of discipline, but I learned discipline is a kind of self-love. Knowing this makes it a lot easier!

Theoretically one also could do it on a 9 to 5 job

Getting up at 5 a. m. and preparing at least 3 snacks. This should contain your breakfast, your morning snack, and lunch before you are leaving for work. You should arrive at work 45 to 60 minutes before your work starts, so you can have your morning snack and sleep e.g. in your car. During your lunch break, you take lunch and go for your lunch sleep. After finishing work you take another little snack and a short sleep before you are heading back home.

If you use public transportation to get there, and if the ride is long enough, you might even sleep on the bus or train. The evening sleeps maybe after dinner and then you got another 3:30 hours to go, where you might do some easy routines, socializing or getting some work done while enjoying the quietness of the night. Due to the fact, that I do not have a 9 to 5 job, I have no experience with this. But I would be happy if you would share yours in the comments below.

Simon’s tactic to fall asleep within 1 minute

The other evening I got to know Simon in a restaurant. I asked him: “How long do you need to fall asleep?”
To my big surprise, he responded: “I fall asleep within 1 minute”.
So I asked him if he would be willing to share his tactic to fall asleep within 1 minute, of course, he was:

Have a Nice Sleep - Simon tells how he falls asleep with in one minute“I try and get myself ready for sleep about half an hour before I go to bed. I tell myself it’s another adventure, when I go to the other side, where anything can happen through dreams. So I have mundane thoughts and think about trivial things, like brushing teeth or about a movie. I have several positions I lie down and go to sleep in, I think about which one I choose.
It works for me.”

Have a nice sleep with less discipline

Not sticking to the schedule as strictly as at the beginning made things easier, because it requires less discipline, so I can use it for something else, e. g. fitness training, nutrition plan, or my work. Most of the days I only took 3 naps during the day plus the longer one at night. I started choosing the sleeping times according to my condition and taking the naps when I was tired. This reduced the time to fall asleep and the bedtime for another 30 minutes per day. Doing so, I got an average daily bedtime of about 5:30 hours, which was above 6 hours the week before.

I kept feeling more comfortable throughout the day, and my productivity rose a lot due to the extra hours which are now available during the week. I finished an SEO (search engine optimization) project for my webpage in about one week, which I procrastinated for a long time. Additionally, I created lots of new content on the webpage (about 20 blogs including this one). It was stressful my dear friend Jenny, who does the proofreading for me. Additionally, I hired a personal trainer. She helps me to prepare for the triathlon in October in a town called Forster (yes, like my surname) NSW, Australia. With her support, I increased also the training intensity.

Have a nice Sleep and measure your sleeping rhythm

I kept using the sleep cycle app, which gave me a pretty clear picture of the time I spent in bed. The waking up mechanism during a shallow sleep phase works pretty well. Due to utilizing the microphone to analyze it, the app conflicts with any application that uses the phone’s speaker. So either I had to use the headset to listen to a guided meditation to fall asleep, or I had to do it on my own. Most of the time I chose to do it by myself. And one thing pisses me off about the sleep cycle app: For no understandable reason, it puts the speaker volume to zero, when it terminates the sleeping time. So I keep hearing nothing when a call comes in, nor navigation announcements. Due to that, I will not use it anymore.

Due to guided meditation 4-5 times a day to fall asleep, I got pretty good at calming down my mind consciously. On the other hand, if I felt tired, but kept on working until my next sleeping time. Sometimes I experienced to hear my tinnitus. It is not a big surprise that this routine and the lack of sleep puts some extra stress on the body. Having 2 to 4 cups of coffee during the day, especially when waking up and feeling sleepy helped, but it increased the stress which causes the appearance of the tinnitus. I guess it is better to reduce the coffee to 1 to 2 cups a day, and only utilize it if I am really having a hard time to get to full energy after a sleep. Thank you tinnitus, for reminding me!

Have a Nice Sleep in week 5

In week 5 a miracle happened after my junk food day, on which I had plenty of sleep. I woke up at 5 a. m., went to the beach for a run, followed by a workout in the gym and my breakfast. After a short sleeping break, I got onto the computer and started improving my webpage. I worked with only 3 breaks for lunch, dinner, and breakfast for about 30 hours until the early afternoon the day later. Being completely in the flow, I enjoyed my work so much that neither time nor sleep did matter to me. I was so full of energy. This was the first day with less than 4 hours of sleep.

Meanwhile, I got a pretty stable routine and I am enjoying the additional time. It adds so much extra value to my life, which I wanted in my birthday resolution, and it doesn’t seem to be too hard on my body. Even if it looks pretty challenging to get permanently to 4 hours or less, I want to continue with it … until I find something better. I will let you know when I am going to experience some more breakthroughs, so stay tuned!

Have a nice sleep and sleep quickly, so that you got plenty of time to enjoy your dream!