Jenny Verano’s Love Tips: How to improve your relationships

Your relationships determine the quality of your life

10 Love Tips by Jenny Verano

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #1: Love and warmth

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This emotion will help you to get rid of negative thoughts. Develop the behavior of leaving people feeling love and warmth coming from you. To create any new behavior you need to put yourself in the emotional state where this behavior becomes automatic. You need to feel love and warmth first.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #2:- Appreciation and gratitude

When you feel appreciative you can’t feel sad or resentful.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #3: Curiosity

Make sure you are interested and inquisitive in your interactions with other people. Be present. Focus on them and be more aware of their feelings. Ask good questions.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #4: Excitement and passion

Make a conscious decision to feel this emotion every day.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #5: Determination

You must be able to follow through on your word in order to achieve anything and don’t give up trying.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #6: Flexibility

Be flexible enough to extend your boundaries, give yourself enough time and change the plan if it is not working. You can even change your goal.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #7: Confidence

Choose this emotion over fear. Often we are fearful about things that we imagine and feel bad in advance but they never come to happen. Have faith, have trust and choose to be confident in a situation. You must likely are confident doing the laces on your shoes. Why? Because you have done it too many times. Practice gives you confidence.

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Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #8: Cheerfulness

There’s a difference between being happy and being cheerful. Happiness is an internal emotion. You’re cheerful when you communicate that happiness to your face and the people around you feel good and happy to be with you. It improves your self-esteem, makes life more fun, causes people to respond to you and the feelings of fear, anger, frustration, disappointment, inadequacy, guilt and depression will seem to disappear. Cultivate this emotion and you won’t have to do any other action in order to get attention.


Source: The Five Love Languages on YouTube

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #9: Health and energy

When you are vibrant and healthy you have the strength and the energy to do more and bad things bounce of you because you feel good. You can handle situations in a better way because your mind only needs to focus on that particular thing. Practice the things you know that make you feel energetic and vibrant on a regular basis so you can have better health.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #10: Sense of contribution

If every day you can feel that what you do adds something more than just to your own life but to others as well, life takes on a new deeper meaning. We all have a need to feel like our lives matter and because we have lived other people’s lives are better. We all want to leave our mark and you can do that by smiling at someone you don’t know or by appreciating someone who needs it or by giving a genuine compliment.

You can notice how you have contributed already and appreciate the little things you do for other people that make you feel good about yourself so you want to do more. It’s like a cycle. You do something for someone that makes you feel good so you want to do it again until you become addicted. Can you imagine a world where people develop an addiction to making other people feel good?

Master those 10 emotions to experience a life
you have never had before!

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The most maluable asset is time

What is your most valuable asset?

While writing this, I am on the flight to Austin, Texas. I will participate in a seminar from Keith Cunningham. On the flight, I am listening to his book “The Road Less Stupid“. It inspired me to think about the most valuable asset. Which brought up this idea:

Sharing my thinking time about the most valuable asset with you, my dear!

What is the most valuable asset? It’s time!

Time is your most valuable assetTo do so,

– I will send you 2 to 3 times a week questions about a thinking time issue
– until the next day we collect our ideas
– on the third day, we evaluate the ideas and decide which one we are going to implement
– then it starts over again with the next issue

Due to being a big fan of simplicity, effectivity, and frugalism, I want to start with thinking about “saving time”. Because time is our most valuable resource. It creates space to do things, that improve your life, health, wealth, growth, vitality and happiness. So, saving time provides you with the biggest benefit. Apart from, if you are permanently bored. But I can’t see that risk in your case. Here are the thinking time questions for today:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  • What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?
  • Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

Find and share at least 3 ideas within the next 24 hours. Write down what comes spontaneously into your mind. Perfectionism is not an issue here. The more ideas, the better. Spontaneous ideas need less time, so you are already implementing one time-saving method!

If you think you don’t have time for this exercise and taking care of your most valuable asset, it means that you would have the biggest benefit from it! So, here are the questions, once again:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  • What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?
  • Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

My ideas about my most valuable asset are:

What am I not doing anymore?

  • The most maluable asset is timeTraining up to 5 times a week. Only training 3 times a week, up to 1 h maximum with high intensity, e. g.
    • Cardio e.g. running, swimming cycling
    • Strengthening e. g. dumbles or weight lifting
    • Mindfulness e. g. yoga, stretching, tantric energy
  • Stop oversleeping, having 1 to 3 rests during the day, lifting night sleep to 6 h max
  • Working longer than 90 minutes continuously
  • Not writing blogs in German anymore, English only. Let Google translate it.
  • Having someone who does the German translation for me
  • Planing the outcome of tomorrow before I fall asleep. Then concentrate on the single most essential task

What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?

  • protect your most valuable assetClose the door behind you, when working.  And put an “ON AIR” sign with a skull on the outside, e.g. while producing music, learning, writing or having your thinking time. So that nobody disturbs you and to avoid interruptions.
  • Only have those things on the table, I currently need to get my current job done.
  • Concentrate on a single task. No drinks, snacks, cigarettes while working. Nor playing with the smartphone, telephone calls, WA, FB, Emails while eating.

Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

  • Instead of mentoring Chris individually, adding him to the mastermind
  • Not doing social media myself anymore
  • Removing those participants from the mastermind who don’t contribute

One member of the mastermind group came up with the following ideas:

  1. most valuable assetWhat am I not doing anymore?
    Because someone knows more about a particular subject than I do, I would never assume their advice on that subject is right for me.
  2. What would I recommend you not to do anymore?
    Do not talk about lack and limitations, unless you want more of the same
  3. What am I doing due to a habit which doesn’t produce results?
    Complaining about the changes in my company

Another member came up with these thoughts:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  1. Let me persuade you to dispose of any rubbish from tenants or the like.
    • Listen to boring stories of things that I do not really care about. (Keep your hard drive clean and organized.)
    • Do not feed your mind with any junk you do not care about, a quote from the series “Elementary” (Sherlock Holmes).
    • Endless phone calls with interested customers lead but, as quickly as possible but also as necessary, come to the point and arrange a visit.
    • pointless visits reduce Ala “I wanted to stop by”
    • waste (personal) too much time with Instagram etc.
    • Expand email templates to save time when answering emails
  2. What do you recommend to me to stop doing?
    • Check out what’s fun and then stop doing things that make you unhappy
    • To deal with Apple devices: D
    • Possibly. also from other digital things that will kill you like Newsletter2go etc.
  3. What do I do out of habit, which brings no results?
    • To be the good-natured one
    • Do things quickly and in between that just distract me
    • Listening to stories that do not interest me in principle


… and join the mastermind today

Your Starting Point is Right Here

Where Is Your Starting Point?

Do you know your starting point?

Your Starting Point is Right HereWe spent quite some time describing your dream and your target. Now we want to go to the next step, which is required to navigate to your target. Did you ever use a navigation system? And did you experience what happens if it cannot receive a GPS signal? It doesn’t know the starting point. This can happen

  • if riding through a tunnel,
  • when it is very cloudy,
  • if you are in a forest with too many branches and branches above you,
  • in a city between skyscrapers,
  • or if your mobile phone is offline and does not receive any positioning information.

Without a starting point, it can’t navigate to your destination.

  • Are you able to navigate with a map, if you don’t know where on the map you are located? No, you can’t!

So before you get started heading towards our dream and targets, you need to know, where we are starting from. You need to know your starting point.

That’s why I encourage you today, to spend your thinking time describing your starting point:

Describe your current situation in the field of your life in which you have chosen your dream and your target. Write it down. Because to do it only in your mind has very little power. Only if you are aware of where you are starting from, you can decide in which direction you need to make progress. Like the navigation system or if you are navigating with a map.

Starting point estimation is positioning

So allow yourself some time to write down all the aspects in the chosen field of your life, that come into your mind. Be dead honest with yourself. Where are you now? To do so, describe what is already good, what is reasonable, what is well worth to improve on, and where is your arse in deep shit! Yes, you read correctly. This time we also want to dig deep into the shit in your life. Because this causes the biggest pain for you. And pain is the best driver to get started and make your arse moving.

Starting Point estimation is serious work and can be painful

Even if you are NOT a masochist, you WANT this pain!

Go into the details of the pain you are experiencing and find your “WHY”: Why you MUST change it? Don’t look for the reasons why you can’t change it, instead only describe the pain you feel. Because you need it to get the power in order to get rid of the pain. This is the explosive fuel to get started. And in the beginning, you need a lot of energy to change something, which is a habit.

My starting point was: Wasting my time

My habit was, sleeping 8-10 hours per day. Changing this needs a lot of discipline, and the pain is needed, to make the first big step. My pain was the fear, to live a boring life, after the best year of my life – so far. So I increased my pain until I was ready to burn the ships behind myself. And yes, you should do so as well! As soon as you got to a certain point, on which you need to cut off the way back. So you got no choice anymore, other than to make it happen!

Getting started with your starting point

Get something to write now right now and write down the start situation as it is at the moment, including all the shit you definitely want to get rid of.

Go and DO it: Find and describe your starting point!

Because soon we will need it to implement the dream and the targets in our subconscious mind.

fallacy of time management

Logical Fallacy of Time Management

Instead of asking: What will I do when?
We should rather think about:

Why shall I do what?

fallacy of time managementManaging our urgent tasks is the Logical Fallacy of Time Management. We should manage our tasks depending on how essential they are. To be able to do so, we need to know what we want to achieve in our life.

This is much easier if we have written down our dreams and targets. To find the next required step, it is good to reread your dreams and targets, in order to stay focused. Then think about the next little task, that you are going to initiate today.

Can you feel, how your focus shifts from urgent to essential?

Inborn Logical Fallacy of Time Management

The damn thing is: We are genetically programmed to focus on the urgent stuff. If a dinosaur did hunt your grand-grand-…-parents, they did run! And they did not think about, what would be the next essential step to becoming spiritually enlightened! Nor they sat down and smoked a cigarette to think, what would be the best in this situation?

This instinct to take care of the urgency in this situation saved their life. And by acting like this, they were able to protect our species. So we should be grateful for this instinct because we are alive due to it!

How to overcome the Logical Fallacy of Time Management

Nowadays dinosaurs are not around anymore. So other things came into our lives, that we consider as urgent, e.g.:

  • the taxman,
  • our boss,
  • being on time for a date,
  • deadlines,
  • and schedules.

Which is good, if you have thought about the priorities first! And if you schedule most of your time for tasks, that serve your dreams and targets! By doing so, you made your essential tasks urgent. So your basic instinct of focusing on the urgent stuff serves your essentials!

So, go and review your dreams and targets to overcome the Logical Fallacy of Time Management. Then choose the next little step and schedule it for the next week … just to make it urgent!

… because this also makes you happier!

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Stop Oversleeping: How to get around with 2-4 hours of sleep a day?

In a conversation someone told me, she takes a nap before she goes out to party on a Saturday night. This reminded me, that I read once about a method to avoid oversleeping and reducing the required sleep per day to 2-4 hours. I did some research on it and a self-test on how to stop oversleeping … with the target archive more time to create an enjoyable life.

Stop Oversleeping: Day 1

How does it feel after the first day with only 3h sleep? I actually couldn’t make it, I had one sleep which was about 4 h plus I skipped one sleep during the day because I started spontaneously and did not arrange my dates accordingly. In the end, I felt always sleepy. But I kept going on, trying to make all sleeping periods 30 minutes max.

Getting started I was facing the following challenges:

How to fall asleep quickly?

Meditation 6*5-30 minutes is 1/2 to 3 h of meditation a day, almost like a Buddhist monk! The cool thing about it is, you do it in your sleeping time, so there is no extra time needed for it. Training to sleep according to this schedule definitely trains to calm down my mind.

How to get awake quickly?

  • Breathing of fire: You will find a description of how it works in Part 2 of this post
  • A shower or a jump in the pool
  • Easy exercise, such as stretching
  • Coffee, in case you feel you need it but have it only right after getting up, otherwise, you miss out on your next sleeping period

How to make my gained time most enjoyable?

  • learning
  • growing
  • contributing
  • party

How to make my time productive?

  • Schedule only one major task per wake up phase

Stop Oversleeping: Day 3

Due to eating every 4 hours I never got desperately hungry, so I didn’t overeat. Apart from Saturday, which is my high carb-/junk food day, where everything goes, e.g. Hamburger 🍔 with French Fries, bread 🥖 and Pizza 🍕. The effect was that I ate only 2-3 times per day, slept deeper after the meals, but had a harder time getting up.

When to eat/drink?

Each time I am awake I take a little snack according to my oxygen, water, fat, protein / low carb diet:

  • Half a liter of water right after I get up
  • a choice out of
    • Veggies 🌽
    • Fruits 🍎
    • Smoothie 🍹
    • Salad 🥗
    • Nuts 🥜
    • Coconut 🥥
    • Protein drink

In the first 3 days, I always needed at least one period which was longer. During that time was my birthday 🎂 and I had some drinks 🍷 which definitely was not beneficial to be disciplined, but well worth the fun!

Where to sleep when not having your bed available at home?

  • Rent space in a SPA, during the day they are usually not too busy, so it is pretty quiet, it is a convenient temperature for sleeping and even some meditative music might be playing.
  • Beach 🏖
  • Learn to sleep whilst sitting
  • Public Transport: Bus, Train, Plane
  • Use earplugs to be able to sleep in a loud environment, I keep using my noise cancellation headset, which also allows me to listen to a guided meditation.

Stop Oversleeping: Day 4

On the 4th day, I thought I can make it and I did stick to my schedule pretty well. But when I got to sleep for my 4 a.m. sleep, I slept all the way through to 9 a.m. Changing the sleep rhythm is like overcoming a major jet lag, so I expect that it should be done soon. In my next post you will learn, why this expectation was by far too optimistic, so continue reading:

Getting Around With 2-4 Hours of Sleep a Day – Part 2