Struggling Between Me And My Kids

Some days ago, I had an interesting conversation about

“struggling between me and my kids”

with a wonderful lady. And she was willing to publish our conversation. Because she wants to contribute to other women, who might be in a similar situation. And I agree, I guess there are a lot of them around.

– Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, …

Klaus Forster: So true, if you give up yourself for others, means you don’t love yourself enough. One can do that from time to time, but doing it all the time, it turns into a burn out in the long run.

– but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.

Klaus Forster: A lack of time is always the result of unclear priorities. E. g. because we do a lot of things, which are just our habits but do not serve us. Time is fair: Everybody gets 24 h per day. Some people have time, others are always under stress and claim that they have to little time. Setting better priorities is the key: https://vitality4happiness.com/are-you-setting-the-right-priorities/

– Like I have saved some money for my yoga teacher training, but the reason why I am not registered yet because I wait in case my daughter will need the money for her university.

Klaus Forster: A lack of money is always a symptom, never the cause. So start digging deeper and find all the problems, put them in a sequence, which one is depending on another one. You may want to write them on some PostIt stickers so that you easily move them until the sequence makes sense. Then have someone have a look at it, you can send me a photo of it, and we can discuss it. Everybody has a blind spot, and for someone else, the reason is often obvious. Here is the story of how I realized what my blind spot was: https://vitality4happiness.com/how-a-mastermind-group-works/

– What is a blind spot?

Klaus Forster: Some problem or behavior someone can’t recognize and solve by himself, but for others the problem and it’s solution is obvious.

– So I have 4 kids, divorced, my ex-husband does not support me, he was unemployed during our 10 years of marriage and still unemployed now.

Klaus Forster: I think you got a strong male energy, and he wasn’t able to compete with that. So he lost your respect. (I am speaking from experience 😉 This sounds to me like the end of the love of my life). It was cozy and comfortable for him having you taking care of everything. Did you do the test about male/female energy: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient

A relationship needs both. If the woman has a stronger masculine energy than the man (what happened to me) the loss of respect is the result, then it gets ugly.

So the solution is: Find a partner who got a stronger male energy than yours.

– I did, I have female energy, life taught me a hard life that shaped me into what I am.

Klaus Forster: I am not sure, maybe we discovered a blind spot?

– Anyway, I told my 1st daughter to talk to his father to see if he could help her with her tuition this year, as I will enroll her sister this year. Last year we agreed to share our 1st daughter tuition but none, he did nothing.

Klaus Forster: You are putting the responsibility to your daughter. And this is a wonderful thing, especially at her age. They want to be treated as a partner, not as a child anymore. So if she can’t make him pay for it, encourage her to find another solution. Work part-time, scholarship, become an entrepreneur, … (actually, I like the last idea the best!)

– So waiting for his participation, I delay my teacher training.

Klaus Forster: If you consider yourself as waiting, you will wait forever. Increase your pain, imagine what will happen in the worst case, find out why you need to make a change, make it a MUST. Then think about the target and take the first step in its direction. The earlier the better. Already after the first few steps the pressure and pain will go away. But the pain is good in the beginning. It makes you move: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-drive-for-massive-change/

– I know the priority should be on me, …

Klaus Forster: You already understood it!

– because I am the breadwinner, I am gonna need the certificate to teach formally (I have taught some friends, but I know having the certificate is safer), but I don’t have a deadline in getting it, while my daughter has (in paying the university tuition). But the fact that I delay the teacher training kinda frustrates me as I am looking forward to this.

Klaus Forster: 4 times “but” in this sentence means you are making excuses for yourself = being arrested in your own prison: https://vitality4happiness.com/escape/

  • Any advice on how I should handle this? The depression and anxiety kinda attack me as I am waiting for this to go through.

Klaus Forster: Depression is always a result of low self-confidence. As I know you, I think you are feeling depressed only once in a while, and not permanently. So it is not critical and you are most likely able to help yourself out of it. You already acknowledged this: https://vitality4happiness.com/confidence-by-jenny-verano/

The next step is to do the first step. Define your target, increase your pain, take the first few steps utilizing pain as the driver to get started. If the target or the first steps are not perfect, it doesn’t matter, you can correct the direction on the way. It is essential to building up momentum, that keeps you going even through difficult situations. But soon, you will see the first successes and then pleasure will replace the pain and makes you go for the long run: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-energy-to-make-dreams-come-true/

 

 

Klaus Forster: You are writing: I am building her business …

She should build her …

It is a method of leadership if you think you have to do it, or she has to do it.

Actually, if you think YOU have to do it: This is already a reason why you don’t have enough time.

A good leader works less than his/her employees.

And it starts, with the way you think about it.

– First I’m building it, then she slowly jumped in, I told her on her 19 birthday, I will give it to her and she would be responsible as I will stop supporting her financially. That will be in August.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

 

 

 

Klaus Forster: Sorry, I don’t understand what it means. Your initial statement was:

“Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.”

I understood it like this: the (lack of) time influences/sets the priorities.

How does it deal with a payment deadline?

 

 

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

 

 

Klaus Forster: I have the feeling you are very active. And you are keeping a lot of balls in the air at the same time. If you can’t see the progress anymore and even feel sometimes depressed:

It is time to take a break, to avoid running into a burnout.

The momentum you build will show results after a short break, e. g. 1 week.

The distance will allow you to reprioritize, which gives you more time in the future.

When getting back, you will see how little needs to be done, you probably can get everything done what wasn’t possible to do without you in half a day! Which shows you, which tasks you can transfer to other people (transfer a task means to delegate including the responsibility for the results)

You will learn that the system does not collapse if you are away, which supports your confidence.

 

 

Klaus Forster: When I went to Germany in January my employee was in this situation as well. It took me 3 days to realize, what the problem was. You can be proud of yourself, that you can say it so clear. I sent him for one week on vacation, bought him and his girlfriend a ticket and told him to switch off the mobile phone.

So what I described above is not theory: I saw that as a result of his abstinence, as well from my own experience. As I describe in the free chapter:

“The freedom to work from wherever you want”

https://vitality4happiness.com/networking-at-dream-beaches-the-freedom-of-a-digital-nomads-life/

 

 

Klaus Forster: This sounds like you are not living according to your own values. That costs a lot of energy and leads into a burnout.

So first of all: Are you aware of your values?

Do your values serve you?

Probably not best possible. The good news is: Values are like software, you can change them!

What would be a better set of values, that serve you better?

Implement them and live them and your energy will come back.

I think you have love, contribution and perfectionism ranked pretty high in your values. Especially perfectionism leads to a lot of work and a lack of time. And with contribution ranked too high, it is likely that others abuse you and suck your energy and money like your ex-husband did.

 

 

Klaus Forster: Maybe I underestimated how critical your situation is. If it is really that bad, you might need a psychiatrist. This is not a shame! It rather would be a shame if a wonderful person would leaf this world too early, just because of a depression, which is not treated well.

In this case, it might go beyond my capabilities to support you with that. I am not trained on that.

– that is what I’m doing now. I am building her business under my organization. Now I start asking her to attend training and do admin stuff.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

– with my kids, I have to pay their tuition by July, I got 2 kids in university this year

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

-Yes. I’m thinking of using the money as down payment to buy a car which they can use to grab driver, all the money will be used to pay the credit and gas and they take the rest. They said ok.

 

 

– Actually, I am taking a break now… I am away, it is my second day and while I’m away I gave my daughter some responsibilities and I could see she managed to delegate to her sisters, which is good she learn to lead

Klaus Forster: The best school she can get! Excellent idea, and if you give people more responsibility their intelligence explodes (= grows a lot)!

– oh yes.

Klaus Forster: If you don’t feel good after your break, get professional help. Because I feel at the limit of my competence at this point.

Anyway, I am more than happy to support you in any entrepreneurial development and also the development of the mindset as a basis for that. But I know where my limits are.

– no, like you said It is not permanent. I’m taking a break and felt better now knowing my daughter start taking responsibility

Klaus Forster: 👍

 

Following up one day later:

Klaus Forster: Good morning

How do you feel this morning?

– Good morning Klaus, I feel better, just did my morning walk, breakfast and resting a bit before yoga a bit later. How are you?

Klaus Forster: I read what we discussed yesterday, and I am impressed how clear you are able to analyze your situation!

– I am usually very aligned with my self, know what I want and pursue it. I just need to remind my self that there are things you can not control, other people behavior. And when you help them, stop at helping, do not expect they understand what you are doing let alone expect them to do what you do.

And I need to remind my self that when depression kick in, just acknowledge, and let it go, I don’t need to spoil it.

Klaus Forster: I already thought about that: in the yoga teacher class you will learn a lot about: let go

I can imagine that you are also suffering from the fear to let go of your kids … but at their age, it is time to do so and it is the best present you can give them. Even if not initially, they will be grateful one day and love you for that even more.

– funny you mention self love, that is what we encourage women.

Klaus Forster: Thank you for inspiring me for this

– in our tribe, glamour, and purpose, that self-love and self-care are very important. Thank you for listening to me, advising and writing it.

Klaus Forster: That is what advertising tells us, but that’s not self-love. That is pimping the outside. Even if you are unhappy inside. Self-love is about a mindset.

– Everything is mindset I guess: So the bottom line is how to train your mindset, from fix to growth mindset

Klaus Forster: So true. Thank you for the interview.

What is Entrepreneurship

What is an entrepreneur?

An entrepreneur is a self-employed person who founded his own business

What is Entrepreneurship? As it is described in Wikipedia, it means the process of designing, launching and running a new business, which is often initially a small business. People who create a business are called entrepreneurs. The word Entrepreneurship comes originally from the French language. And it is made up of the words “entre” and “prendre”, as much as “business”.

So, what is entrepreneurship in the classical sense?

It is all of the tasks of the founder and owner of a business got to take care for. But much more it is their mindset. It is considered as an independent, responsible and healthy way of developing an enterprise. Due to this, entrepreneurship requires a great responsibility. And at the same time, it involves taking high risks, because of a lot of entrepreneurs fail financially. This means that the term “Entrepreneurship” characterizes a certain attitude of mind. So that the business can improve its success and chances to compete in the marketplace.

And what is entrepreneurship in a modern sense?

Due to the fact, that creating a business idea and putting it into life is a very creative process. An Entrepreneur is an artist. They got to imagine something special, break it down in executable steps, and turn their imagination into something real. And this never ends, they always have to reinvent their business, strategy, as well as the processes to make the business grow. And the base for that is the mental growth of the entrepreneur himself.

What is Entrepreneurship innovation

In English, the first French entrepreneur describes a personality that is quite good at bearing high responsibility and high risk. The word Entrepreneur is not just about the dull translation, but also about character. It requires a balanced attitude to life and the ability to produce new innovations over and over again.

The accompanying word entrepreneurship describes the entire complex of topics, which includes the field of self-employment. Depending on the reading, you can achieve very different content here. According to Schumpeter entrepreneurship definition, it is the creative destruction of existing structures, in order to establish innovations, that are usually obtained through reorganization. Entrepreneurship as the field of action of an entrepreneur. And it is also gilded as a learnable thinking principle, that can be derived and implemented by “normal” managers. Even though managers do not bear the high responsibility, like the entrepreneur himself.

An example of “what is entrepreneurship”

Imagine you got an idea for a business, and you found it together with a friend. The two of you become entrepreneurs. You invest a lot of your own cash and also the debt capital in your entrepreneurship. You also bear the entire responsibility for the capital. But since you are convinced of the idea of your entrepreneurship, the two of you are everything the company is about. You are two true entrepreneurs. And due to living your entrepreneurship, your business becomes the blueprint of your characters.

Learn more: Entrepreneurship turns out into a happy life …

Experience More Happiness

Experience More Happiness

Achievement is not the source of permanent happiness,
but everlasting growth it is!

Growth = Experience More Happiness

First of all, we need to understand, to Experience More Happiness, we need to grow. And that the speed of growth is proportional to our happiness. How can we improve the speed of our growth, to feel happier along the way? If you are training hard🏋️‍♀️ at the gym, what happens to your muscle?💪 Let’s imagine, you are training with a weight of 50 kg until you cannot make any more repetitions. You feel exhausted but you are happy and proud that you made it!

You know your muscles will be hurting the day after your training, they got sore. And as long as they are hurting, you are less strong than the day before. Due to that, you won’t be able to do the same exercise anymore with 50 kg. Maybe you are still able to do it with 40 or 45 kg at the most. But if you do it again after 2 days relaxing your muscle, you will be able to do the same exercise with 52 or even 55 kg! So you gained quite a bit of strength during relaxation.

So what happened?

After your physical workout you got weaker, but after a rest, your muscle grew stronger! This principle is well known for physical training. And everyone knows how to relax physically. Having a refreshing drink, putting up your legs, having a massage and some delicious food, which is rich in essential oils and protein.

We can learn from athletes to get the right balance between training and relaxing. If you train too often your power goes down and you damage your muscle. But if you do not train often enough, you gain much less than possible. To find a good timing for the next training session the key is to improve the speed of growth. For the average person, 2 times a week is good for physical training. If you are more active it can be 3-5 times a week, but the training should be less intense. If you are in good shape already, training once a week with a high intensity can be enough to maintain your form.

Why do top athletes train each day 2 units a day?

They concentrate on every training on a different section of their body. No marathon runner goes for two marathons a day during his preparation for a competition! And we can learn how to adapt this strategy as well, by switching between different kinds of training.

But how about mental growth? Can you apply the same principles? Of cause, you can. But most people don’t understand how to train and relax mentally.

What is mental training?

Mental training is learning, being creative, and – you probably won’t like this: working under pressure and stress, for example, participating in an exam, a competition or finishing a project until a fixed deadline! Anything that brings you out of your comfort zone and increases your risk tolerance. If your head is getting hot because your brain seems🧠 to burn all of your energy, while you can smell your own cold sweat.😓

That is the stress you need as a trigger for mental growth. You will gain a higher stress tolerance. Similar to the physical training, which stresses your muscle and sets a growth impulse. And yes, it hurts!

Due to avoiding the pain, most people rather try to avoid stress, so they hardly ever get a growth trigger. Other people feel permanently stressed. They feel under pressure at work, are afraid that the taxman gets them, think that the kids are too demanding, having no time and never enough money!💰 They are caught in a treadmill, like a runner who trains by running two marathons each day. They are getting weaker and weaker and finally end up in a burnout and in depression.

How to relax mentally to Experience More Happiness?

This can be done through meditation, breathing exercises or sleeping, dancing, and physical training. Actually, everything that gives your brain a break, which makes you almost stop thinking. 🤔 Sounds easy, but in fact, it is a challenge to think nothing! Especially during rem sleep, which is the deep sleep phase in which you sink right after falling asleep, and periodically later during the night, puts your brain into standby. That’s why one gets around with a hand full of shot sleeping phases per day.

How to find the right balance between mental training and relaxation?

If you are working and working or learning and don’t see any progress, this is like the hurting sore muscle after the physical training. You feel uncomfortable and😣 try to push harder. But this is time to take a rest! You need it the most when you think you can afford it the least. It seems, that our bodies are giving clearer signals than our brains! But this is not true. Especially in the western society, you get more honor if you are looking stressed and overworked than for taking a break at the right time, having faster growth and harvesting the success of it. This gets rather considered as luck! So it is just a bad habit to overrule it.

Taking a break is good airmanship

Fortunately, there are also good examples of this awareness: Air traffic controllers and pilots get trained for listening to their signals of getting tired. And it’s called good airmanship when they say: “I am tired and I need to take a rest.” So another air traffic controller or the co-pilot takes over. They get encouraged to take a break from their education programs. Even it this is basically done for the security of the passengers, crew and flight devices, as well as for the security of flight traffic in general. And we can utilize this strategy for our growth and happiness. To avoid a reduction in your stress tolerance levels, you need to change the habit of constant stress.

For me, it was a great improvement to take each month one week of holiday. I booked a cheap charter package tour in a basic hotel. And I chose the dates in the offseason in a low priced region. So it hardly did cost more than my life back home. So I started working remotely, only a few hours a day. While spending my days with sports, meditation, and walking along the beach. So I kept sleeping long and enjoyed the freedom of mind away from the daily business.

Scheduling breaks to Experience More Happiness

After coming back I realized how much progress was done in my abstinence. And even better, I felt so happy about the gained effectivity, because I learned to get many things organized in a short time after my return back home.

This made it easy for me to break with my habit to stay busy permanently. And I utilize this practice as well as my junk food day each Saturday. Because always eating only the healthy stuff is like being in permanent stress. On junk food day my appetite tells me what is missing in my diet. And it is easy to start, to take scheduled breaks, every 4, 6 or 8 weeks from your work routine. With this increase of mindfulness, you will become more sensitive to listening to your needs. And you will find your own optimal rhythm between stress and relaxation.

Learn more about taking breaks to improve happiness

Couch Surfing Experiences

Ramadan at the Ramada

Couchsurfing Experiences in Malaysia, source Mr. Drone

I made new couch surfing experiences in Malaysia at the Ramada Hotel. With an amazing view over the skyline of Kuala Lumpur.

Couch Surfing Experiences during Ramadan at Ramada

That’s funny because it’s Ramadan. The apartment I booked through Airbnb and the whole apartment did not even cost 27 €! Couch surfing can give experience to individuals about the way of living with local people.

Couch Surfing Experiences - Rooftop Pool of an Apartment Booked on AirBnB

And to live with locals makes a big difference. You get much more of their way of life. And you get tips that are not in any travel guide. I have already made very good couch surfing experiences. Like changing my itinerary in Singapore in February to fly to Phuket together with my host and her girlfriends. Booked in the evening, flying together the next morning to Thailand. Therefore, today I would like to recommend AirBnB.

If you do not have AirBnB account yet, you can get access using the following link: www.airbnb.com

Plus you will receive a 25 € credit for your first booking! But there is a lot more interesting stuff here:

What can you learn from your couch surfing experience?

How to connect only through one middleman between the guest and the landlord. This is awesome and is similarly done at Uber, Go-Jek, and Greb. The value chain is short and without high costs or commission. The most amazing thing about it is: The frontend of the AirBnB-webpage looks like it is programmed with love 🙂 Look at booking.com and you see a webpage that is programmed with greed 🙁

Expensive couch surfing experience in classic sales channels

This is very different from the traditional distribution networks. The manufacturers sell their products to the export enterprise, they resell it to the shipowners. They sell it to the importing enterprise, who then delivers the goods to the wholesaler, he distributes it to the shops of the retailers. And finally, the consumer buys or orders his product there. How many middlemen? Too many!

Couchsurfing experiences at the fuel station

You do not want to know how many times the petrol has changed hands until it ends up in your tank! As of today, one barrel of crude oil costs 64 €, that is 159 liters per barrel or equals to 0.40 Euros per liter. At the petrol station, you pay over 1.40 € which is a surcharge of 250%! There are of course transport and processing costs, but most of it goes for the profit margins of middlemen. And have you ever been curious about the fact, why the fuel did cost about 1.20 € even in times when the barrel was traded for only US$ 30? Back then the surcharge was over 400%!

MLM Couchsurfing experiences

That’s almost the same with multi-level marketing (MLM) systems. Even if the producer delivers the pills directly to the end-customer, there is a long sales channel of the MLM freelancers. All of them get a commission out of the turnover. That’s why selling in an MLM system is only possible for products with an incredible sale margin, such as nutrition supplements. They are getting sold with arguments like: “Your health should have a higher value than 2 € per day to you.” The manufacturing costs of the pills are in the mEuro range (1/1000th of a Euro). But I have already written about the Minerals in Food.

The business model for good couch surfing experiences

With your business idea, you want to think about this question: How can I remove all of the middlemen? Uber, AirBnB, Greb, and Go-Jek have one thing in common:

They do not own the infrastructure to produce or deliver their products.

  • Uber doesn’t own any cars that drive as taxis.
  • AirBnB does not have buildings, which is used as a hotel.
  • Greb does not own scooters that are used for public transportation,
  • and Go-Jek does not even have pizza ovens, but most likely the deliver the most pizzas in the world!

How can YOU become the AirBnB in your business field?

Your Starting Point is Right Here

Where Is Your Starting Point?

Do you know your starting point?

Your Starting Point is Right HereWe spent quite some time describing your dream and your target. Now we want to go to the next step, which is required to navigate to your target. Did you ever use a navigation system? And did you experience what happens if it cannot receive a GPS signal? It doesn’t know the starting point. This can happen

  • if riding through a tunnel,
  • when it is very cloudy,
  • if you are in a forest with too many branches and branches above you,
  • in a city between skyscrapers,
  • or if your mobile phone is offline and does not receive any positioning information.

Without a starting point, it can’t navigate to your destination.

  • Are you able to navigate with a map, if you don’t know where on the map you are located? No, you can’t!

So before you get started heading towards our dream and targets, you need to know, where we are starting from. You need to know your starting point.

That’s why I encourage you today, to spend your thinking time describing your starting point:

Describe your current situation in the field of your life in which you have chosen your dream and your target. Write it down. Because to do it only in your mind has very little power. Only if you are aware where you are starting from, you can decide in which direction you need to make progress. Like the navigation system or if you are navigating with a map.

Starting point estimation is positioning

So allow yourself some time to write down all the aspects in the chosen field of your life, that come into your mind. Be dead honest with yourself. Where are you now? To do so, describe what is already good, what is reasonable, what is well worth to improve on, and where is your arse in deep shit! Yes, you read correctly. This time we also want to dig deep into the shit in your life. Because this causes the biggest pain for you. And pain is the best driver to get started and make your arse moving.

Starting Point estimation is serious work and can be painful

Even if you are NOT a masochist, you WANT this pain!

Go into the details of the pain you are experiencing and find your “WHY”: Why you MUST change it? Don’t look for the reasons why you can’t change it, instead only describe the pain you feel. Because you need it to get the power in order to get rid of the pain. This is the explosive fuel to get started. And in the beginning, you need a lot of energy to change something, which is a habit.

My starting point was: Wasting my time

My habit was, sleeping 8-10 hours per day. Changing this needs a lot of discipline, and the pain is needed, to make the first big step. My pain was the fear, to live a boring life, after the best year of my life – so far. So I increased my pain until I was ready to burn the ships behind myself. And yes, you should do so as well! As soon as you got to a certain point, on which you need to cut off the way back. So you got no choice anymore, other than to make it happen!

Getting started with your starting point

Get something to write now right now and write down the start situation as it is at the moment, including all the shit you definitely want to get rid of.

Go and DO it: Find and describe your starting point!

Because soon we will need it to implement the dream and the targets in our subconscious mind.

Optimize Off-Site Search Results

This is the second part of the example explains all steps for a

Off-Site Web Page Optimization for Search Results

The purpose of this procedure is, to optimize the visibility of your web page for Search Results. A reason to that is, to lead visitors to your page. In the first chapter, I explained how SEO works. And the second chapter took care for the on-site optimization. Finally, this part concentrates on off-site optimizations.

  1. Find best pages for inbound links to create traffic by leading visitors to your page.
  2. Use analysis tools to understand how you search for valuable pages to place your links.
  3. Learn how to utilize YouTube to get more visibility.
  4. Introduces tools and its utilization to make easy progress.

Continue with offsite optimization for search Results by Creating inbound links

  • Querry the Search Results for “blog (similar keyword than your page)“

  • Choose blogs coming up with a keyword with high competition, (check with the google keyword planner) if they come up in the upper search results, their backlinks are more valuable

  • Write comments to the blogs you found about the same subject and put a link to your own one in it

  • Create a 30-90 second video about it and upload it to YouTube
  • Add a link to your page in the notes below the video
  • Learn more about using YouTube as a search engine in the book “Networking at Dream Beaches
  • Send out a press release to an online press service, e. g. which creates instantly a lot of inbound links.
  • You also can buy inbound links and visitors for your page, e. g. on fiverr.com

  • Send the link with an appealing text to your page to your contacts

  • Share it the appealing text, the link and a picture from the page on your social media channels. I am using for that

    • Facebook company page
    • my personal Facebook profile
    • A Facebook group which I am moderating
    • instagram
    • twitter
    • google plus
    • xing
    • LinkedIn
    • Share your posts with other groups that are about a similar topic
    • Order a virtual assistant who shares your posts on social media channels
  • You can reuse old inbound links if you are utilizing a subdomain, e. g. http://blog.vitality4happiness.com/
  • In the control center of your hosting provider, you can define the subdomains. I kept using this to link to the book “Networking at Dream Beaches” and shared this link often on social media. If I am creating a new page, I just redirect this link to the new page and it has many inbound links right after publishing.

Continue reading to understand

On-Site Optimization For Search Engines

This example explains all steps for an

On-Site Optimization for Search Engines

The purpose of this procedure is the optimization of your text for Search Engines, to achieve a good ranking in the organic search results. This includes:

  1. Create an initial version of the webpage to start your analysis of the optimization.
  2. Use analysis tools to understand how you can improve the wording and identify the best keywords.
  3. Rephrase and improve the text and the page content.
  4. Introduces tools and its utilization to make easy progress.

Start the on-site optimization for search engines

  • On-Site Optimization For Search EnginesWrite the text which you want to optimize for search engines.

  • Upload the plain text to your website and publish it. I started with the headline “Warning: Your Food is Low on Vitamins and Minerals ⚠” and the URL of the page turned out accordingly:
    warning-your-food-is-low-on-vitamins-and-minerals

  • Improve the text quality by removing typos and orthographic errors by using a spell checker – Grammarly, which is a plugin for the Chrome browser
  • Check included keywords density using a keyword density analysis tool from:
    Smallseotools

  • My initial top Keywords for search engines were:

  1. On-Site Optimization For Search Enginesfood 18
  2. vitamin 9
  3. vitamins minerals 8
  4. vitamins 8
  5. minerals 8
  6. lack 6
  7. nutrition 5
  8. quality 5
  • Find based on the most frequently used words a good title with low competition in search engines using GoogleAds Keyword Planner. Enter an initial headline and try a combination of the most frequently used keywords in your text.

  • Sort the results for the highest number of search requests.
  • Find a keyword suggestion, which gets searched for often, but with little competition. A low PPC (Price per Click) is a good indicator for that.
  • I found out that the term: “minerals in food” got 10,000 – 100,000 requests on Google per month. Also, it has a low competition. And that I can get listed in Google AdWords for just 1 cent per click on the first page.

  • Rephrase the title of the page accordingly. So I changed it to “Low Minerals in Food”.

  • Change the name of the URL that it matches the keyword I chose for the search engines. In my example, I changed it to minerals-in-food.
  • Increase Keyword Density by adding the keyword in the text, where ever it fits. You should use it about once within every 50 – 200 words.

  • Add subtitles and reuse the keyword in the headlines

  • Add pictures and give them alt-attributes, those are containing the keyword.

  • Check the keywords density again using a keyword density analysis tool of Smallseotools.

  • After the On-Site Optimization it showed the following result:
    #Term, Count, Density, Prominence

  1. minerals in food, 12, 1.13 %, 100 %
  2. vitamins and minerals, 5, 0.47 %, 100 %
  • Improve SEO according to YEAST plugin for WordPress

  • Check your other pages for your keyword and similar expressions and put links on them to the new page

Continue with Off-Site optimization for Search Engines

What is Search Engine Optimization?

The abbreviation SEO means Search Engine Optimization

 

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Pleasant Result of Search Engine Optimization: 10 Times on Google Page 1 Search Results

So, what is Search Engine Optimization (SEO) good for? The motive to do SEO is to achieve a highly ranked web page in Google and other search engines results. And the reason for that is to attract a lot of visitors.

 

What is Search Engine Optimization Effort

First of all, be aware, that it is a lot of work, but it pays out in the long run. Of course, you can get visitors to your page with Google AdWords and Facebook ads. But this will cost you a lot of money over time.

 

What is Search Engine Credibility

Being on top of the organic results creates a much higher credibility in the mind of your visitors. Credibility is the currency you pay with, on the internet. Especially if you want to sell any service or product on your web page!

Your Benefits: What is Search Engine Optimization?

So, first of all, you need to understand how search engines sort the pages in their index:

The most essential criteria is to provide useful content to their users in the search results. That’s why the more text you got on your page the better: Search engines love text, even spoken text, especially in YouTube videos.

Due to the fact, that the search engines cannot really measure the usefulness of the content, they make assumptions on the data they can get.

This data contains:

  1. How often is the search phrase on the web-page? This is what you got completely under your control. I will go into detail about this in the chapter about on-site optimization. That’s what you need to get started with.
  2. Readability of your page. Texts with easy grammar and without typos get ranked higher. Like the sentences before. And please, don’t do it like that:
    What is Search Engine Optimization?
    Or did you enjoy to read this sentence? So use a spell checker! It is beneficial to put your content in short sentences, that even a child can understand it. In the chapter about on-site optimization, I will discuss tools that support you in doing so.
  3. Usability of the page. The most essential usability feature is the availability of a mobile version. This means: Does it get displayed in a convenient way on the smaller displays from phones and tablets? Most of the themes (design templates) available for WordPress do that automatically for you. This feature of the themes is called “responsive”. Just make sure to use a theme, that offers a responsiveness functionality.
  4. The number of visitors and if they continue on other pages of your site increases the page ranking. But if they are leaving it quickly, the ranking decreases. The more visitors the better. And the more of your pages they visit improves the ranking of your page in general as well. You can easily improve this, by adding links to other sub-pages. This will be discussed in the on-site optimization chapter.
  5. Duration of each visit, each long visit increases the ranking, short visits decrease it. So you want to keep your visitors engaged for longer than 10 seconds, the longer they stay on your page the better. Implementing videos is a good way to achieve this. You find some more thoughts about this in the book: “Networking at Dream Beaches” how to utilize Youtube.
  6. Quality, the number of inbound links and how often they are used. An inbound link from a high ranked page adds more value to your page than one from a lower ranked page. You can get instantly a lot of inbound links to a newly created page by reusing a sub-domain, which I will explain in the off-site optimization chapter.

What is Search Engine Optimization priority?

The priorities the search engines put on the criteria mentioned above is not completely known. And the search engine operators don’t publish them. Because they want to avoid, that their algorithm gets re-engineered.

What is Search Engine Optimization reaction time?

To make it even more difficult, Google shows the results of an old index. So the results of your optimizations will be visible only after a while. This can take up to three months.

So you got to be patient with the search engines after you got your homework done! And if you want to start a new business, publish the webpage early enough. At least 3 months before you want to start with your business, even if it has little content in the beginning. So that the search engines can add it to their index in time and display your page in the search results.

Learn more about what is Search Engine Optimization and how to do it

Stay tuned for a step by step description for:

Minerals in Food

Are too low Minerals in Food?

Badly designed advertising for food additives, because the text has a lack of readability! When will designers ever learn? Form follows function!

Warning: Low Vitamins and Minerals in Food ⚠

While writing this I am sitting in a restaurant in front of a colorful

organic wheatgrass shot recommendation.

This inspired me to think about nutrition. I recalled, that many nutrition specialists keep telling us different versions of the same fairytale over and over again, e. g.:

“Once upon a time, food was better. Today there is low Vitamins and Minerals in Food. Nowadays fruits 🍌 🍎 🍉 and vegetables 🍅 🌽 🌶 only got less than 10% of the vitamins and minerals they contained 20 years ago. As a result, you would have to eat about 10 times more, than your parents had to eat 2 decades ago.”

This is probably also the reason why Coke bottles contained 0.2 litres when I was a child and now they come in sizes up to 1 gallon!🤪

Further, they argue: “The Minerals in Food is low due to:

  1. overpopulation
  2. industrialized production methods,
  3. exhausted soil and poisoning caused by fertilization
  4. rubbish.

I consider that the entire

Low Minerals in Food Story

is complete nonsense, because:

1st lie about Minerals in Food: Overpopulation

This world is not overpopulated, otherwise the population wouldn’t grow anymore, because everything which goes over the edge starts decimating itself. This is just a law of nature.

2nd lie about Minerals in Food: Industrial Production

Industrial production methods make fresh foods better, due to more efficient harvesting and a quicker delivery onto your table. It is even keeping it clean an cooled during transportation if required. So you receive fresher food on higher hygienically standards. I am not talking about processed foods, that is a different story.

3rd lie about Minerals in Food: Fertilizing

Nowadays the soil gets fertilized according to the needs of the plants🌱 that will get planted on it. This is like putting a child in a school that supports its talents and interests best possible. It will learn with ease, and grow faster. And it will be much better, more specialized and will be outstanding compared to what it ever could have achieved in a normal school. This is what farmers did in the past, when they were fertilizing each and every plant with the same combination out of 🐷 piss and bull shit!

4th lie about Minerals in Food: Rubbish

Are Supplements the solution for low Minerals in Food

Especially in Asia (with a few exceptions, such as Singapore and Japan) a lot of the countryside looks like a rubbish tip for polyethylene plastic bottles. This mess is due to a lack of a supply in drinking water quality, no efficient recycling system, and unfortunately – I need to say: Due to a lack of awareness! Luckily one can see that this awareness keeps increasing. But polyethylene is neutral, it doesn’t poison anything, even if you burn it, it just turns into water and carbon dioxide. Plants need both to grow! I am not saying that the plastic bottles belong there, but this kind of rubbish doesn’t harm our food in any way, even if it looks dead ugly in the botany!

By the end of the day, most of those “Minerals in Food specialists” are just selling some kind of overpriced nutrition supplements, e.g. JuicePlus, or this wheatgrass powder. Which are all processed food.

I do not believe that the quality of our food has decreased. And finally, no one can prove it, because nobody has 20-year-old apples or tomatoes available in its food storage which are still in their initial condition, to compare the difference of their vitamin and mineral content with the ones we eat nowadays. I think the opposite is true:

The food available now has never had a better quality

Plus our food has never been so cheap before as it is today. The majority of the world’s population only needs a relatively small amount of their income to buy their food. In the past, it was the main thing they were working for. Ok, in some under-developed countries this is still the case. But the fraction of the population that needs to work all day for food has never been that small in the history of mankind. That’s why my truth is:

Most people just eat the wrong processed food,

  • with too much sugar, empty carbohydrates and
  • too little water content and essential fats!

Eat the fruits and veggies instead of the fucking processed supplements

Eat them preferably raw. If you want a hot meal, so prepare it by steaming the veggies for a short time. And avoid the deep fried shit. Not due to the fat content, only due to the damage, the heat does to the fat. Because that will supply you with more than enough of natural water, fat, protein as well as vitamins and minerals.

Nutrition supplements make sense as a short-term support if you got a lack of some vitamins or minerals. Pretty common is, for example, a deficit of vitamin D in winter for people living in a place far away from the Equator, due to a lack of sunshine. In such case, additives can make a big difference to the quality of their life, mood, and energy. But you want to add them after a blood analysis from your doctor. Based on that you are just adding exactly those that are missing because

Focus is Power!

And you will realize how much energy can give to your body a little correction of supplies in the right direction. But in the long run, you want to add more of the fruits and vegetables to your diet with a higher content of the vitamins and minerals you are lacking of.

Nature always provided everything you need, and it always will.

Read some more thought about my

easy to practice Nutrition Plan.

Are You Setting The Right Priorities?

“As you wanted to have lived by the end of your life,
you can start living as of today”
Marcus Aurelius

Are you setting the right priorities?

Are You Setting The Right Priorities - favorite people as target customers

During a workshop with my mastermind group in October 2016 at the concept of Vitality4Happiness, I realized female entrepreneurs are the people I liked the most. I exclusively wanted to coach female entrepreneurs, because it gave me back so much tantric energy that I was almost in the flow all the time.

The other participants shook their heads and suggested to me: You need to be a woman to do so, otherwise it has no credibility, and first of all: It is politically incorrect. But that couldn’t stop me. I knew my most essential task and didn’t like to wait for a gender change. Which is anyway no option for me! As of today, it is completely normal for me to moderate a mastermind group with exclusively female participants.

Do you know your important tasks?

Those who make a difference. Tasks that bring a lasting change to life. These important tasks are crucial.

If you negate my question, I implore you: It is best to take the time immediately to determine the really important things in your life. Give yourself more peace and quietness in life. Listen inside yourself, and reflect your life. If you do not know where you want to go, the best compass will not get you there. Plan your life! We intuitively know what is important to us.

But actually, most people know their really important tasks. In principle, we need neither an advisor nor coaches for this. We intuitively know what is important to us. Our deepest desires, values, and needs automatically lead us to our inner wisdom. Nevertheless, we often do not set the right priorities.

So most of us are very likely to know their goals. And you will agree that today you should live the way you want it for your future. Even the most of the techniques are known by almost everyone. Whether Pareto principle, the 72-hour rule or the Eisenhower principle. Why do we often fail to put the important duties before the urgent tasks?

It is relatively easy to prioritize

Set your priorities and read my book now

“Networking at Dream Beaches – The Freedom of a Digital Nomad’s Life”

  • which you can easily order HERE

  • or listen to the first chapter for free: LISTEN NOW

But: it is not easy to implement priorities

Unlike most guidebooks make you believe, we do not just need some clever techniques. Living by your priorities means tackling the important things in life as quickly as possible and not letting anything in your life stop you. We need discipline, courage and a clear vision of our lives. It’s not easy, but it’s well worth doing it.

Vital and happy greetings
Klaus Forster

QUOTE:
“If we are doing what anyone does, we are as valuable as sand in the desert”