Let’s talk about mental strength. There are basically two ways to take advantage of this topic: By training our Real and Competitive Behavior.
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You realize that if you want to exit scarcity forever, you need to improve your performance. Because you’ve set yourself the goal to get rid of your fears, angst, and anger. For that, you need in addition to the already discussed basics, an additional quantum leap. To do this big jump, you need mental strength.
Likewise, you can benefit from mental strength by saying, “It’s enough for me to reduce my fears to a level, that I can conveniently handle.” Once again, mental strength will greatly improve the quality of your life.
The term “mental strength” comes from competitive sports. For example, the great tennis player Chris Evert said, “My weapons were … self-confidence … and serenity under pressure. … My biggest asset was my inner strength.”
Bodo Schäfer, in my opinion, the best German speaker, who inspired me to create this training, tells his story:
“I have always been able to learn so much from top athletes. That’s why I liked being around them. Her way of thinking fascinates me a lot.
For example, in my early thirties, I spent a lot of time with a martial arts master. With an Indian named Shami. He is also a successful businessman, having earned his money in an MLM system. Before his 30est birthday, he was not only financially free, but absolutely financially free (See: Levels of financial freedom). He had more than 300,000 employees in his team.
I traveled with Shami for almost a year. I visited him at his estate in the north of England, at his main residence in Cyprus, we met in London and flew to various seminars, where we met important personalities. Shami’s theme has always been the mental strength. Much of what you read in the Winners’ Laws I learned from Shami and from the people with whom he brought me together. I did not earn much that year, but I learned so much. And I was looking for my purpose in life. Incidentally, Shami was one of the two friends with whom I spent some time in a hotel to reflect on the purpose of life.
How can an Indian, who has met many xenophobic resentments in Great Britain, who does not have a special school education, who does not have such wonderful starting conditions, already be a multimillionaire by the middle of his twenties and achieve absolute financial freedom before his 30est birthday? The answer is: Due to his mental strength.
All the top athletes I’ve met and spent a lot of time with our mental strength for the main reason for their success. Of course, this does not only apply to top athletes. It applies to excellence in every field.
Mental strength is the ability to move at its upper limit, regardless of the external situation.”
The Myth About Mental Strength
Many people say, “Mental strength is not anchored in my genetic code.” But that’s a wrong view. Mental strength is learnable. Nobody is born with it. If you do not have mental strength, you have not learned it, yet. Mental strength is the ability to activate all of your potentials to do everything you can and know in a crucial moment. Do you remember Steffi Nerius? The German world champion in the javelin throw? It was her problem for a long time that she could not activate her true abilities in a competition. What she lacked was mental strength. Unless we can retrieve what is in us at a crucial moment, we will never achieve great results.
The good news is, that we can learn to get the best out of our capabilities. We can train and control that, so we can do it really well if it matters.
This results in a great self-confidence. If we know that we can do everything right at the crucial moment, we get it all … and then we dare to do more.
Inner strength is also associated with physical processes
Inner strength is by no means limited to the mental area. Emotions are neurochemical processes and, at the same time, it is a physical process. Thoughts are electrochemical processes in the brain and therefore also physical. Thinking does not mean that air is simply pushed back and forth in our heads. Just because we can not see thoughts and emotions, does not mean that they have no physical component.
Mental strength ultimately determines our whole being. This lesson is the first of a series of 8, that will deal with this topic. We will examine the nature of mental strength to determine how we can train mental strength.
First of all, let’s reflect on it: Emotions are simply a reflection of what’s physiologically deep in our body. Not all negative feelings are based solely on our thinking. It can also be simply physical deficiency symptoms. Being dehydrated. The need for a break. A low blood sugar level …
Such drawbacks can literally block our ideal performance state. Vince Lombardi, the famous American football coach, said: “Exhaustion makes us all cowards.”
I believe that there is also a kind of mental exhaustion that makes everyone fearful. E. g. if someone has a financial hardship, it is very, very difficult for him to retrieve his optimal performance. That’s why it’s so important that we first build-up at least financial protection. So that existential fears cannot come up again, because you got enough cash, that you can live for 3-6 months off it, in case your regular income breaks away suddenly. For that, we need to save money continuously. This requires discipline, and to be disciplined, we need mental strength.
Emotions are nothing else than messages of our body, which are transmitted by chemical messengers of the body. And each of these emotions fulfills a purpose.
James Loehr: Real and Competitive Behavior
The great sports coach Dr. James Loehr has looked after over a hundred world-class athletes. Among them Monica Seles, Martina Navratilova, Pete Sampras, Ray Mancini … For him, it is clear that the crucial difference is always to seek in the mental strength. To teach this to his athletes, he has distinguished between real behavior and competition behavior. We can train both, both the real behavior and competition behavior. Our real behavior is how we live daily under normal conditions. You could say, the way we really are. Competitive behavior is the state we need to accomplish, to deliver peak performance at the right time. This can be an operation for the doctor, a process for the lawyer, an introduction for the author, an important negotiation for the seller …
We will see that one influences the other. If we strengthen our real self, it helps us in the competition. “Competition” is always synonymous with the moment, in which we want to retrieve maximum performance in our professional life. And when we train our competitive behavior, it also helps us to strengthen our real behavior.
You already know that a difficult situation can be quite positive. Because we have to learn to deal with fears. And we learn, that we should never give up and that problems are good. Here’s another reason for it: Only when it gets hard, we train our mental strength. As we learn to respond appropriately to negative messages, we become stronger.
You remember the picture: I wanted to evade problems like a skier dodging slalom poles. As a result, I also had no way to train, to get stronger. When we avoid stressful situations, we become more and more vulnerable to any kind of emotional stress! And stress is just the modern word for fear. Because it is not appropriate to talk about fear. But if you are stressed, that shows you are too busy and over-engaged. And this gets honored in western societies.
We have to learn to bear emotional stress. Neither our children nor ourselves should be overprotected. Otherwise, we are simply no longer able to cope with emotional low blows or to react optimally in competitive situations. We will see that preparing for the critical situation alone, will not be enough. We need to strengthen our real behavior overall. That is the basis for our competitive behavior.
Real And Competitive Behavior are influencing each other
Then we can train to build and strengthen our competitive behavior. This even includes the ability to withstand great mental and emotional stress.
Again, all this is not inherent to us, but we can train it. And due to that, we should train it. Think of your circle of relationships: Do you know people who are already threatened with small problems? When the washing machine or the car breaks down …, what an experience of a disaster? Such people are mentally weak, for some reason. Because they avoided problems or others took them away from them. Even the smallest problems bring these people out of balance. Precisely, because they already see small problems as a disaster. Each of us knows the feeling of having trained too much at once. When literally nothing goes anymore. It feels like pulling the plug of the computer. Just as we can exercise our physical capacity, we can also strengthen our mental capacity. Our ability to endure stress. To be enduring. Use problems to win something positive.
To master problems, stay calm and relaxed
Have you ever met a rich person who has no mental strength? And who then tries to overplay his powerlessness? Compensate for fashionable clothes, expensive jewelry, affected behavior … What a sad sight. On the other hand, we immediately recognize a strong, self-confident person. His strong real self and his knowledge of being able to retrieve a strong competitive behavior in important moments, make him charismatic and confident. Self-assured people are charismatic. That’s why it is well worth gaining mental strength.
In the next letter on this topic, we will discuss the most important feature that distinguishes the competitive behavior. You may be surprised.
Your Thinking Time For Week 1
About Your Real And Competitive Behavior:
Do your thinking time in a mind storming manner. That means you write a list of ideas for each question. For 1 week, think every day about the following questions and find for each of them at least one new answer or an example. Write the answers down in your journal.
- How do you see the mental strength of your real behavior on a scale of one to a hundred?
- And how do you see the mental strength of your competitive behavior?
- In your knowledge journal, record how you want to define the terms “mental strength,” “real behavior,” and “competitive behavior.”
- Think about how you can strengthen both:
- your real behavior and
- your competitive behavior.
- In which important situations did you succeed in retrieving your skills? These are important achievements! Write them down as successes in your journal.
- Write down five things you are grateful for.
On the 7th day analyze your results. What is the point which would give you the highest leverage? What will you do to make a little step progress in that direction?
Vital and happy regards