Sex is no option.
It is just a basic need.
And that’s why: No sex is not an option!
Let’s listen to Kim Anami: Why?
Source: kimanami.com Thank you, Kim Anami, I couldn’t explain it any better!
Sex is no option: Sex is not love
No, it is not the same. But sex is the strongest component of love. And the desire for sex is the strongest driver for love. It is probably the best if both come together. Both participants, as well as sex and love. Actually, one person cannot satisfy all the needs of another one. That’s why we work with teams and do not love exclusively one person. For some reason, sex gets called “making love”, pretty wise words.
Sex is no option: Is Sex bad?
To consider sex as something bad is nothing than religious brainfuck. Each and every one of us, and any creature on the planet is a result of sex. So, what can be bad about Sex? Everyone is a part of the universe and some people interpret the universe as one infinite creature. Sex is sourly needed to rebuild and maintain the whole universal creature.
Sex is no option: Sex Sells
The strongest driver any being got, is a sexual attraction. Sex sells! Why? Because our desire for sex is embedded so deeply in our reptile brain, that we cannot ignore the feelings it creates. And it is the greatest source of energy, tantric– or kundalini-energy. Show me an unmotivated person, and I show you someone, who hasn’t had good sex for a long time. And he or she has probably times of depression, because of not feeling loved. The fear of not feeling loved is the strongest fear we can experience. Because already as a baby we rely on it to survive, so not feeling loved includes the fear of death.
Sex is no option: Monogamy is a fallacy
Because monogamy is against (human) nature. There are no animals, that are living in monogamy, and the human being is nothing like another species of animal. There have been good reasons to invent the idea of monogamy. In times, when sexual deceases were spreading around the world, and killing the majority of the population, it was a smart idea to recommend everybody to stay monogamous. But nowadays, where the diseases can be treated medically and condoms are available to prevent them, there is no reason anymore for this rule. We only keep this rule, because we are used to it.
Sex is no option: Sex only for married people
A marriage is nothing but a financial contract. It does not protect love, not even sympathy. Hollywood makes us believe that romantic love needs a marriage, but hardly anything is further away from the truth than that. A relationship is a game between harmony and tension. Most people enjoy the time at the start of a relationship, the first flirt, conversation, touch, kiss, another date, first sex, playfully trying out what is possible. As soon as they try to conserve this, by getting engaged or married the playfulness gets lost. Having a secure relationship means boredom and kills the relationship in the long run. Now another flirt becomes interesting, maybe more …
Sex is no option: That’s just an opinion
Of cause it is only an opinion. But everything we think that we know is only an opinion. There is no objective truth. Anything we see, hear, feel, smell and taste go through the filter of our frontal leap. Everybody got a different filter, which determines what is essential for us. Out of 2,000,000 junks of information, our senses are receiving every second, our frontal leap deletes anything our brain cannot process.
Sex is no option: The brain lottery
The processing speed of our brain is 7 (+/-2) junks of information per second. Imagine 10 people are watching and experiencing the same soccer game. And each of their frontal leaps deletes 1,999,993 junks of information. For everybody something different is essential. So everyone got his own unique filter. How much will have the remaining 7 junks in common? They got as much in common as the lottery numbers from last week, with the numbers of this week! Based on this selection our brain builds a picture of what is happening around us. I am more than surprised that by the end of a soccer game most of the visitors can agree on the same team that won.
Good for us, because not all of us do not consider the same person as attractive.
Sex is no option: Sex creates jealousy
Being jealous is not inborn, but only a sign of low self-confidence. Not love nor sex can improve or fix that problem. Only working on your self-confidence can solve it. And there are methods available, to improve your self-confidence. And some of them are so easy to execute, that you will have a hard time believing that it will work, for example writing a daily success journal. But it workes, it just needs some time and does not show instant results. But in the long run, it makes you so much more confident about yourself.