How a Mastermind Group Works

Mastermind WhatsApp Group

I have created a Mastermind WhatsApp Group for my most curious girlfriends

Mastermind WhatsApp Group

How does a Mastermind Group work?

who want to learn, grow and contribute. I am sharing coaching letters in the Mastermind WhatsApp Group and everyone can post their ideas to inspire other group members. I am sending two or three topics per week to inspire your thinking time, by sharing only short headlines with a link to the according blog. The participation is free of charge.

If you are a female entrepreneur interested to participate in this group:

Please send me a WhatsApp message on +491741828845

Furthermore, we got our Intensive Mastermind Group in Bali, which you can join.

For efficient use of the WhatsApp Mastermind group

  • I kindly ask you for your awareness that you are consuming the time of a lot of people with your posts, as well as the memory of their smartphones when posting photos and videos. Please make your comments short and on the topic. Long comments are better on the blog. Because then only those people, who are interested in the issue get to see it. Preferably send links to photos you want to share, instead of posting them.
  • You are welcome to make direct contact with the other group members. Please take private communication into direct chats with the person you want to talk to.
  • Due to members from different time zones, you may want to “mute” the Mastermind WhatsApp Group, so that it does not disturb you during the night.
  • The group language is English, at least most of the time 🙂

Mastermind WhatsApp Group

Struggling Between Me And My Kids

Some days ago, I had an interesting conversation about

“struggling between me and my kids”

with a wonderful lady. And she was willing to publish our conversation. Because she wants to contribute to other women, who might be in a similar situation. And I agree, I guess there are a lot of them around.

– Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, …

Klaus Forster: So true, if you give up yourself for others, means you don’t love yourself enough. One can do that from time to time, but doing it all the time, it turns into a burn out in the long run.

– but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.

Klaus Forster: A lack of time is always the result of unclear priorities. E. g. because we do a lot of things, which are just our habits but do not serve us. Time is fair: Everybody gets 24 h per day. Some people have time, others are always under stress and claim that they have to little time. Setting better priorities is the key: https://vitality4happiness.com/are-you-setting-the-right-priorities/

– Like I have saved some money for my yoga teacher training, but the reason why I am not registered yet because I wait in case my daughter will need the money for her university.

Klaus Forster: A lack of money is always a symptom, never the cause. So start digging deeper and find all the problems, put them in a sequence, which one is depending on another one. You may want to write them on some PostIt stickers so that you easily move them until the sequence makes sense. Then have someone have a look at it, you can send me a photo of it, and we can discuss it. Everybody has a blind spot, and for someone else, the reason is often obvious. Here is the story of how I realized what my blind spot was: https://vitality4happiness.com/how-a-mastermind-group-works/

– What is a blind spot?

Klaus Forster: Some problem or behavior someone can’t recognize and solve by himself, but for others the problem and its solution are obvious.

– So I have 4 kids, divorced, my ex-husband does not support me, he was unemployed during our 10 years of marriage and still unemployed now.

Klaus Forster: I think you got strong male energy, and he wasn’t able to compete with that. So he lost your respect. (I am speaking from experience 😉 This sounds to me like the end of the love of my life). It was cozy and comfortable for him having you taking care of everything. Did you do the test about male/female energy: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient

A relationship needs both. If the woman has stronger masculine energy than the man (what happened to me) the loss of respect is the result, then it gets ugly.

So the solution is: Find a partner who got stronger male energy than yours.

– I did, I have female energy, life taught me a hard life that shaped me into what I am.

Klaus Forster: I am not sure, maybe we discovered a blind spot?

– Anyway, I told my 1st daughter to talk to his father to see if he could help her with her tuition this year, as I will enroll her sister this year. Last year we agreed to share our 1st daughter tuition but none, he did nothing.

Klaus Forster: You are putting the responsibility to your daughter. And this is a wonderful thing, especially at her age. They want to be treated as a partner, not as a child anymore. So if she can’t make him pay for it, encourage her to find another solution. Work part-time, scholarship, become an entrepreneur, … (actually, I like the last idea the best!)

– So waiting for his participation, I delay my teacher training.

Klaus Forster: If you consider yourself as waiting, you will wait forever. Increase your pain, imagine what will happen in the worst case, find out why you need to make a change, make it a MUST. Then think about the target and take the first step in its direction. The earlier the better. Already after the first few steps the pressure and pain will go away. But the pain is good in the beginning. It makes you move: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-drive-for-massive-change/

– I know the priority should be on me, …

Klaus Forster: You already understood it!

– because I am the breadwinner, I am gonna need the certificate to teach formally (I have taught some friends, but I know having the certificate is safer), but I don’t have a deadline in getting it, while my daughter has (in paying the university tuition). But the fact that I delay the teacher training kinda frustrates me as I am looking forward to this.

Klaus Forster: 4 times “but” in this sentence means you are making excuses for yourself = being arrested in your own prison: https://vitality4happiness.com/escape/

  • Any advice on how I should handle this? The depression and anxiety kinda attack me as I am waiting for this to go through.

Klaus Forster: Depression is always a result of low self-confidence. As I know you, I think you are feeling depressed only once in a while, and not permanently. So it is not critical and you are most likely able to help yourself out of it. You already acknowledged this: https://vitality4happiness.com/confidence-by-jenny-verano/

The next step is to do the first step. Define your target, increase your pain, take the first few steps utilizing pain as the driver to get started. If the target or the first steps are not perfect, it doesn’t matter, you can correct the direction on the way. It is essential to building up momentum, that keeps you going even through difficult situations. But soon, you will see the first successes and then pleasure will replace the pain and makes you go for the long run: https://vitality4happiness.com/the-energy-to-make-dreams-come-true/

 

 

Klaus Forster: You are writing: I am building her business …

She should build her …

It is a method of leadership if you think you have to do it, or she has to do it.

Actually, if you think YOU have to do it: This is already a reason why you don’t have enough time.

A good leader works less than his/her employees.

And it starts, with the way you think about it.

– First I’m building it, then she slowly jumped in, I told her on her 19 birthday, I will give it to her and she would be responsible as I will stop supporting her financially. That will be in August.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

 

 

 

Klaus Forster: Sorry, I don’t understand what it means. Your initial statement was:

“Sometimes I find it hard to choose between me and my kids. I know one can not pour unless her cup is full, but sometimes priority has to do with time, too.”

I understood it like this: the (lack of) time influences/sets the priorities.

How does it deal with a payment deadline?

 

 

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

 

 

Klaus Forster: I have the feeling you are very active. And you are keeping a lot of balls in the air at the same time. If you can’t see the progress anymore and even feel sometimes depressed:

It is time to take a break, to avoid running into a burnout.

The momentum you build will show results after a short break, e. g. 1 week.

The distance will allow you to reprioritize, which gives you more time in the future.

When getting back, you will see how little needs to be done, you probably can get everything done what wasn’t possible to do without you in half a day! Which shows you, which tasks you can transfer to other people (transfer a task means to delegate including the responsibility for the results)

You will learn that the system does not collapse if you are away, which supports your confidence.

 

 

Klaus Forster: When I went to Germany in January my employee was in this situation as well. It took me 3 days to realize, what the problem was. You can be proud of yourself, that you can say it so clear. I sent him for one week on vacation, bought him and his girlfriend a ticket and told him to switch off the mobile phone.

So what I described above is not theory: I saw that as a result of his abstinence, as well from my own experience. As I describe in the free chapter:

“The freedom to work from wherever you want”

https://vitality4happiness.com/networking-at-dream-beaches-the-freedom-of-a-digital-nomads-life/

 

 

Klaus Forster: This sounds like you are not living according to your own values. That costs a lot of energy and leads into a burnout.

So first of all: Are you aware of your values?

Do your values serve you?

Probably not best possible. The good news is: Values are like software, you can change them!

What would be a better set of values, that serve you better?

Implement them and live them and your energy will come back.

I think you have love, contribution and perfectionism ranked pretty high in your values. Especially perfectionism leads to a lot of work and a lack of time. And with contribution ranked too high, it is likely that others abuse you and suck your energy and money as your ex-husband did.

 

 

Klaus Forster: Maybe I underestimated how critical your situation is. If it is really that bad, you might need a psychiatrist. This is not a shame! It rather would be a shame if a wonderful person would leaf this world too early, just because of a depression, which is not treated well.

In this case, it might go beyond my capabilities to support you with that. I am not trained on that.

– that is what I’m doing now. I am building her business under my organization. Now I start asking her to attend training and do admin stuff.

Klaus Forster: This is a wonderful plan! Congratulation

– with my kids, I have to pay their tuition by July, I got 2 kids in university this year

Klaus Forster: If it is not possible to pay it, you might think about taking them out of school for one semester and let them work and save the money for it. They will learn so much from it about life, work and appreciate it much more when they go back to university after the break.

-Yes. I’m thinking of using the money as down payment to buy a car which they can use to grab driver, all the money will be used to pay the credit and gas and they take the rest. They said ok.

 

 

– Actually, I am taking a break now… I am away, it is my second day and while I’m away I gave my daughter some responsibilities and I could see she managed to delegate to her sisters, which is good she learn to lead

Klaus Forster: The best school she can get! Excellent idea, and if you give people more responsibility their intelligence explodes (= grows a lot)!

– oh yes.

Klaus Forster: If you don’t feel good after your break, get professional help. Because I feel at the limit of my competence at this point.

Anyway, I am more than happy to support you in any entrepreneurial development and also the development of the mindset as a basis for that. But I know where my limits are.

– no, like you said It is not permanent. I’m taking a break and felt better now knowing my daughter start taking responsibility

Klaus Forster: 👍

 

Following up one day later:

Klaus Forster: Good morning

How do you feel this morning?

– Good morning Klaus, I feel better, just did my morning walk, breakfast and resting a bit before yoga a bit later. How are you?

Klaus Forster: I read what we discussed yesterday, and I am impressed by how clear you are able to analyze your situation!

– I am usually very aligned with my self, know what I want and pursue it. I just need to remind my self that there are things you can not control, other people behavior. And when you help them, stop at helping, do not expect they understand what you are doing let alone expect them to do what you do.

And I need to remind my self that when depression kick in, just acknowledge, and let it go, I don’t need to spoil it.

Klaus Forster: I already thought about that: in the yoga teacher class you will learn a lot about: let go

I can imagine that you are also suffering from the fear to let go of your kids … but at their age, it is time to do so and it is the best present you can give them. Even if not initially, they will be grateful one day and love you for that even more.

– funny you mention self love, that is what we encourage women.

Klaus Forster: Thank you for inspiring me for this

– in our tribe, glamour, and purpose, that self-love and self-care are very important. Thank you for listening to me, advising and writing it.

Klaus Forster: That is what advertising tells us, but that’s not self-love. That is pimping the outside. Even if you are unhappy inside. Self-love is about a mindset.

– Everything is mindset I guess: So the bottom line is how to train your mindset, from fix to growth mindset

Klaus Forster: So true. Thank you for the interview.

Sad Mood - Snap out of it

Sad Mood – Snap out of it

 

Sad mood?

Sad Mood - Snap out of itThe weekend is always a good time to look back on your achievements during the last week. Yesterday I had an emotionally pretty shitty day with a sad mood. 🤬 I think that happens to everyone once in a while. So my question was: How to snap out of it?

I realized that I needed to snap out of it. To get rid of my sad mood, I analyzed the best decisions in my life. Actually, the most of them where pretty hard to make. And I came up with a list of 13 decisions, I made in the past. First of all, I added all of them to my success journal. Doing so gave me back a lot of my energy. Because it made me aware, that oneself puts down the seeds for one’s successes!

To snap out of it

I want to encourage you, to think about the best decisions in your life. And to write them down. If you are smarter than me, and I guess that you are,  you will do it, before you get into a sad mood. Because it doesn’t need a bad day to do so, it actually should be much easier to do it on a good day. 😆 But if you are already in a sad mood, this exercise will help you to snap out of it!

I came up with a list of my best decisions:

As a second step to snap out of it

Change your sad mood into energy

Bring the list in of your best decisions a sequence. That should be pretty easy. My list looks like that now:

  • 2008 getting divorced
  • 2009 founding Rooms4Music
  • 2011 reading 📖 “Der Weg zum erfolgreichen Unternehmer”
  • 2012 focusing on health as my #1 value
  • 2013 visiting Tony Robbins seminars
  • 2014 visiting Bodo Schäfer Seminars
  • 2015
    • monogamy is a fallacy
    • selling my house in Ludwigsburg, Germany
  • 2016
    • putting money on the stock market
    • participating in the workation in Bali
    • spending the majority of my time in Bali
  • 2017
    • leaving Germany and moving to Hanoi
    • putting Rooms4Music in Chris’s hands
  • 2018 bringing Rooms4Music back onto the success path and cutting costs

Now it becomes a bit more difficult, but it is an effective

Treatment of a sad mood, to snap out of it:

Analyze if you can see a pattern, which carried from one decision to the next, from one level of your development to the next higher level. I found it helps if you add the outcome of your decisions to the list.

  • 2008 getting divorced = Found the love of my life and shared the best years of my life with her.
  • 2009 founding Rooms4Music = becoming independent from my job in 2012 and living entrepreneurial freedom
  • 2011 reading 📖 “Der Weg zum erfolgreichen Unternehmer” = turning my self-employment into a self-running enterprise
  • 2012 focusing on health as my #1 value = discovered running as my new passion, started yoga and improved my movability and flexibility especially in my mind

The biggest change in my mindset and to snap out of it was

  • 2013 visiting Tony Robbins seminars = understood the psychology of people better, especially my own, I realized that freedom (of mind, traveling, sexual, financial) is my highest value
  • 2015
    • visiting Bodo Schäfer Seminars = developed my plan for financial freedom, an investment strategy, and  asset allocation
    • selling my house in Ludwigsburg, Germany = became financially independent
    • monogamy is a fallacy = freedom of mind, sexual freedom, much more relaxed and natural relationships with women, sharing and enjoying more tantric energy than I ever dreamed of
  • 2016
    • putting money on the stock market =
      • I started trading and becoming an investor,
      • started to enjoy the volatility of the market.
      • Finally, I learned to stay calm, if the market is going against my expectation and
      • becoming financially independent.
    • participating in the workation in Bali = falling in love with Bali and the idea of working location independent
    • spending the majority of my time in Bali = living my dream and making 2017 the best year of my life
  • 2017
  • 2018 bringing Rooms4Music back onto the success path and cutting costs. =
    • Making 2018 to the most successful year in terms of
      • turnover,
      • profit and as a result of that
      • the value of the enterprise.

Prevention of sad mood

Now comes the real challenge:

After you did this analysis, extrapolate to the next decision. That will carry you to the next level of your development. Chose one or two new ones, which is the most charming for you, and take a decision. This will help you to prevent you from getting into a sad mood. I am not promising you, that you will never ever get back into a sad mood again. But as long as you got clarity of your direction due to your decision, it is pretty unlikely to fall back into it. If it still appears, it just means, you are not focussing on it anymore, or it is time to go through the procedure once again.

If you want some more background information and inspiration for that, listen to

That will give you some understanding of how it psychologically works and encourage you to take the next step. But you don’t need to understand it, to use the procedure. Likewise, you don’t need to understand how a gearbox works, to be able to drive a car.

For me the next decisions are:

  • living a happy vital life of physical and mental fitness of 150+ years
  • developing Rooms4Music into a 10.000.000 € company

Remember, not achievement, but

Steady growth is the source of everlasting happiness!

how to build confidence

How to Build Confidence – Success Journal

I had a conversation about how to build confidence with a wonderful lady. She told me:

– I lost my confidence.

Klaus Forster: #1 Do you write daily your success journal?

😔 no

Klaus Forster: Do you know how to do it?

– I think I know, but I would be happy if you could give me a guidance.

Klaus Forster:

#2 Put a daily reminder in your calendar, that reminds you, about 1 hour before you usually get to sleep.

#3 If you really want me to help you, send me every day a copy of your success journal.

#4 Read your past successes in your success journal from time to time, especially when you are low on energy.

How to build confidence? 

Write daily in your success journal

Whenever you feel low on energy or unmotivated, it is either due to a lack of confidence or you don’t have clear targets. In the worst case, both at the same time!

Why is this connected with each other?

High motivation just means you got a lot of energy. That means the simple equation looks like this:

Motivation = Energy

This part of the equation is pretty obvious, and everyone can confirm that from his own experience.

But what has it to do with how to build confidence and your clear targets?

Motivation =  Targets * Confidence

This most likely needs some more explanation. But think about a situation where you had a big dream e. g. owning an own villa with a wonderful garden, a garage full of fancy cars and employees that are serving you. But you were not confident enough to believe that you can reach it. Have you been able to get started? No, your motivation and energy were almost zero. Because

Zero Confidence * Targets = Zero Energy = Zero Motivation

Your energy level after working for a while in a new job:

The other day, you got a new job and you were confident after getting the contract signed, that you will do it really well. But your boss did forget to tell you what your targets are. So you were not able to make the decision in which direction you need to work. You tried out several directions, but after a while, you realize it is not producing results. So you keep losing your motivation and energy. And even worse, after a while also your confidence. This is the frustration phase.

This was not only your fault because as an employee you are working on targets of other people. But you can prevent it by asking for the clarification of your target. Actually, you must ask! Asking for it is your responsibility if they are not clear.

Let’s switch the perspective: Now you are the boss!

Have you ever had a new employee who seemed to be motivated? Sure, most employees are highly motivated when they start a new job. But after some time every new employee loses his motivation. How can you help him? Look at the second equation. There are two things for you to work on:

1. Clarify the targets

2. Improve her or his self-confidence

how to build confidence

Agree with him on targets, that seem to be achievable for him. This supports both, the clarification of the targets and – if he believes that he can make it – it improves your employee’s self-confidence at the same time. The other thing is to encourage her or him to write a daily success journal.

By the way, everyone is going through this frustration phase, each and every time when you are learning something new. The more enthusiastic you are in the beginning the deeper the frustration phase will be. You are pretty well off, if you wrote down your successes during the enthusiastic phase, to be able to read them in the frustration phase.

So how to do it on your own, just for your own motivation and energy?

On the first thing, we will work in our business retreats, where we dig deep into our values to find out about our mission, vision and break them down into clear and achievable targets. And the second thing is, to write your success journal.

How to build confidence: For how long do you need to do it?

The great news is: Not forever! I would recommend, just to do it only as long as you live!

How to build confidence: How does it work?

Thinking about your day and concentrating on your successes is a priming exercise. This is very similar to writing a gratitude journal. It makes your brain focus on the positive things of the day. The best time to do it is just before you go to sleep. So you subconscious keeps working on it all night. This brings the fastest results.

How to build confidence: Make the best use out of your success journal

Whenever you feel low on energy you can read in it, which gives you a kick for your self-confidence. Also reviewing your targets helps. Both require that you wrote it down before! By the business retreat, we make sure that you will have clear targets written down. And for your success journal, get someone with authority whom you respect, who does not rely on a good relationship to you. Have this person controlling you, that you write your success journal every day, at least 5 days a week.

During our next

Business Retreat in Bali

we will also train to write the success journal and focus on the successes. After that, you will be doing it almost automatically.

 

Deep Breathing Exercise

Deep Breathing Exercise: Getting Around With 2-4 Hours of Sleep a Day – Part 2


In part 1 of this post I described, that I expected on the 4th day I will make it. But when I got to sleep for my 4 a.m. sleep, I slept all the way through to 9 a.m.

Day 5

It worked almost all night, after sticking to my schedule during the day, but I had a long sleep between 4 and 8 am. It was the first time since I started the experiment, that I had a very productive day. I felt relatively fit during my awake phases, which was hardly ever the case in the first 4 days of this experiment.

Due to the fact, that I slept in the past usually about 8-10 hours a day, sleeping 4 times a day for 30 Minutes and once for 4 hours is already a big step, which gives me 2 to 4 additional hours per day, or 1.000 hours a year. This is more than half the time people with a 9 to 5 job on a 5-day working week spend at work!

I am still not used to it, but I want to make it a habit, so I want to go on. I have to do it still consciously and it needs a lot of discipline to lay down on time and get up according to the schedule, even if I still feel tired after my nap.

If it is physically implemented as a habit, what is approximately after 21 days the case, it should become automatic and easy. But if you count each awake phase as a day, you are already at the 4th day done, but it does not feel like that.

1-4-2 deep breathing exercise

After trying different things how to fall asleep quickly, I found that the 1-4-2 deep breath exercise worked the best.

I used the deep breathing exercise in combination with tightening my pelvic floor while imagining the kundalini energy flows up along the backbone into the crown chakra. During deep breathing in, I relaxed my pelvic floor and I tightened it while holding the breath and breathing out. This is a kind of Progressive Muscle Relaxation technique.

Deep Breathing Exercise

Deep breathing exercises help to fall asleep  and wake up quickly

Additionally, I kept using a progressive breathing method, by reducing the breathing frequency with each breath. So I extended the number of heartbeats for each breathing phase:

  • 1st breath:
    • 4 heartbeats of a deep breath in
    • 16 heartbeats holding the breath
    • 8 heartbeats breathing out
  • 2nd breath:
    • 5 heartbeats of a deep breath in
    • 20 hold
    • 10 out
  • 3rd: 6-24-12
  • 4th: 7-28-14
  • 5th: 8-32-16
  • 6th: …

I guess you got the pattern?!

Mostly within 5 to 8 deep breaths, I am falling asleep, during the phase in which I hold the breath, waking up again from the respiratory reflex. As soon as that happens, I just continued breathing normally and subconsciously. Then it is only a matter of a second until I am falling asleep. You can use this, of course, also if not on the 2-4 hour sleeping plan, but anytime you got problems to fall asleep.

Doing so I managed to sleep on the ferry, while waiting for public transport, after sunset at the beach bar, and on the sunbed at the pool.

Day 6

I changed the approach to two alarms per sleeping phase and just used one to go to sleep. Too often it was not possible to sleep right away, which always required to readjust the wake-up time. So for the wake-up time, I used a timer, which I set to 30 minutes as soon as I started my sleeping phase, which turned out to be much more flexible.

Breath of fire deep breathing exercise

I kept feeling better during the wake time, and the time to get back to power got a bit shorter. To wake up I tried a Bikram yoga deep breathing exercise called “breath of fire”.

If available jumping in the pool, going for a run and get up to speed with a coffee also helps. Due to the variety of the methods and that it got better in general, I cannot say which method works the best. So just “listen to your breath”, as the yogis used to say.

Day 7

I thought it’s my first day, sticking to the schedule, but then a new challenge appeared. I will keep you posted how I fucked it up …

Further, I will record a video about this breathing pattern and provide you with an mp3-audio file download so that you can also utilize it, even if you are not online.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips: How to improve your relationships

Your relationships determine the quality of your life

10 Love Tips by Jenny Verano

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #1: Love and warmth

 How to build Confidence - by Jenny Verano

Jenny Verano

This emotion will help you to get rid of negative thoughts. Develop the behavior of leaving people feeling love and warmth coming from you. To create any new behavior you need to put yourself in the emotional state where this behavior becomes automatic. You need to feel love and warmth first.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #2:- Appreciation and gratitude

When you feel appreciative you can’t feel sad or resentful.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #3: Curiosity

Make sure you are interested and inquisitive in your interactions with other people. Be present. Focus on them and be more aware of their feelings. Ask good questions.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #4: Excitement and passion

Make a conscious decision to feel this emotion every day.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #5: Determination

You must be able to follow through on your word in order to achieve anything and don’t give up trying.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #6: Flexibility

Be flexible enough to extend your boundaries, give yourself enough time and change the plan if it is not working. You can even change your goal.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #7: Confidence

Choose this emotion over fear. Often we are fearful about things that we imagine and feel bad in advance but they never come to happen. Have faith, have trust and choose to be confident in a situation. You must likely are confident doing the laces on your shoes. Why? Because you have done it too many times. Practice gives you confidence.

How to Build Confidence

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #8: Cheerfulness

There’s a difference between being happy and being cheerful. Happiness is an internal emotion. You’re cheerful when you communicate that happiness to your face and the people around you feel good and happy to be with you. It improves your self-esteem, makes life more fun, causes people to respond to you and the feelings of fear, anger, frustration, disappointment, inadequacy, guilt and depression will seem to disappear. Cultivate this emotion and you won’t have to do any other action in order to get attention.


Source: The Five Love Languages on YouTube

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #9: Health and energy

When you are vibrant and healthy you have the strength and the energy to do more and bad things bounce of you because you feel good. You can handle situations in a better way because your mind only needs to focus on that particular thing. Practice the things you know that make you feel energetic and vibrant on a regular basis so you can have better health.

Jenny Verano’s Love Tips #10: Sense of contribution

If every day you can feel that what you do adds something more than just to your own life but to others as well, life takes on a new deeper meaning. We all have a need to feel like our lives matter and because we have lived other people’s lives are better. We all want to leave our mark and you can do that by smiling at someone you don’t know or by appreciating someone who needs it or by giving a genuine compliment.

You can notice how you have contributed already and appreciate the little things you do for other people that make you feel good about yourself so you want to do more. It’s like a cycle. You do something for someone that makes you feel good so you want to do it again until you become addicted. Can you imagine a world where people develop an addiction to making other people feel good?

Master those 10 emotions to experience a life
you have never had before!

Jenny Verano's Love TipsHow to Build Confidence

The most maluable asset is time

What is your most valuable asset?

While writing this, I am on the flight to Austin, Texas. I will participate in a seminar from Keith Cunningham. On the flight, I am listening to his book “The Road Less Stupid“. It inspired me to think about the most valuable asset. Which brought up this idea:

Sharing my thinking time about the most valuable asset with you, my dear!

What is the most valuable asset? It’s time!

Time is your most valuable assetTo do so,

– I will send you 2 to 3 times a week questions about a thinking time issue
– until the next day we collect our ideas
– on the third day, we evaluate the ideas and decide which one we are going to implement
– then it starts over again with the next issue

Due to being a big fan of simplicity, effectivity, and frugalism, I want to start with thinking about “saving time”. Because time is our most valuable resource. It creates space to do things, that improve your life, health, wealth, growth, vitality and happiness. So, saving time provides you with the biggest benefit. Apart from, if you are permanently bored. But I can’t see that risk in your case. Here are the thinking time questions for today:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  • What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?
  • Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

Find and share at least 3 ideas within the next 24 hours. Write down what comes spontaneously into your mind. Perfectionism is not an issue here. The more ideas, the better. Spontaneous ideas need less time, so you are already implementing one time-saving method!

If you think you don’t have time for this exercise and taking care for your most valuable asset, means that you would have the biggest benefit from it! So, here are the questions, once again:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  • What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?
  • Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

My ideas about my most valuable asset are:

What am I not doing anymore?

  • Training up to 5 times a week. Only training 3 times a week, up to 1 h maximum with high intensity, e. g.
    • Cardio e.g. running, swimming cycling
    • Strengthening e. g. dumbles or weight lifting
    • Mindfulness e. g. yoga, stretching, tantric energy
  • Stop oversleeping, having 1 to 3 rests during the day, lifting night sleep to 6 h max
  • Working longer than 90 minutes continuously
  • Not writing blogs in German anymore, English only. Let Google translate it.
  • Having someone who does the German translation for me
  • Planing the outcome of tomorrow before I fall asleep. Then concentrate on the single most essential task

What would I recommend to you, not to do anymore?

  • protect your most valuable assetClose the door behind you, when working.  And put an “ON AIR” sign with a skull on the outside, e.g. while producing music, learning, writing or having your thinking time. So that nobody disturbs you and to avoid interruptions.
  • Only have those things on the table, I currently need to get my current job done.
  • Concentrate on a single task. No drinks, snacks, cigarettes while working. Nor playing with the smartphone, telephone calls, WA, FB, Emails while eating.

Which of my habits doesn’t produce results?

  • Instead of mentoring Chris individually, adding him to the mastermind
  • Not doing social media myself anymore
  • Removing those participants from the mastermind who don’t contribute

One member of the mastermind group came up with the following ideas:

  1. What am I not doing anymore?
    Because someone knows more about a particular subject than I do, I would never assume their advice on that subject is right for me.
  2. What would I recommend you not to do anymore?
    Do not talk about lack and limitations, unless you want more of the same
  3. What am I doing due to a habit which doesn’t produce results?
    Complaining about the changes in my company

Another member came up with these thoughts:

  • What am I not doing anymore?
  1. Let me persuade to dispose of any rubbish from tenants or the like.
    • Listen to boring stories of things that I do not really care about. (Keep your hard drive clean and clean.)
    • Do not feed your mind with any junk you do not care about, a quote from the series “Elementary” (Sherlock Holmes).
    • Endless phone calls with interested customers lead but, as quickly as possible but also as necessary, come to the point and arrange a visit.
    • pointless visits reduce Ala “I wanted to stop by”
    • waste (personal) too much time with Instagram etc.
    • Expand email templates to save time when answering emails
  2. What do you recommend to me to stop doing?
    • Check out what’s fun and then stop doing things that make you unhappy
    • To deal with Apple devices: D
    • Possibly. also from other digital things that will kill you like Newsletter2go etc.
  3. What do I do out of habit, which brings no results?
    • To be the good-natured one
    • Do things quickly and in between that just distract me
    • Listening to stories that do not interest me in principle


… and join the mastermind today

The freedom to work from wherever you want

Today is the day to take a break from the challenge. But here is a present for you! Do you like presents? Do you want to know, what it is? It is 

“The freedom to work from wherever you want”

The freedom to work from wherever you want

The freedom to work from wherever you want

Today you receive the audiobook for free as your present:

Networking at Dream Beaches – The Freedom of a Digital Nomads Life
 
which you can access for free by participating in the group https://www.facebook.com/groups/vitality4happiness/ (for female entrepreneurs only!)
 

Apply for your membership, NOW – TODAY only!

And learn how to live and work remotely and how to enjoy The freedom to work from wherever you want!

This audiobook it the authentic story from Klaus Forster. In his book, he gives valuable tips and encourages self-employed and entrepreneurs to be inspired by his story.

Your Starting Point is Right Here

Where Is Your Starting Point?

Do you know your starting point?

Your Starting Point is Right HereWe spent quite some time describing your dream and your target. Now we want to go to the next step, which is required to navigate to your target. Did you ever use a navigation system? And did you experience what happens if it cannot receive a GPS signal? It doesn’t know the starting point. This can happen

  • if riding through a tunnel,
  • when it is very cloudy,
  • if you are in a forest with too many branches and branches above you,
  • in a city between skyscrapers,
  • or if your mobile phone is offline and does not receive any positioning information.

Without a starting point, it can’t navigate to your destination.

  • Are you able to navigate with a map, if you don’t know where on the map you are located? No, you can’t!

So before you get started heading towards our dream and targets, you need to know, where we are starting from. You need to know your starting point.

That’s why I encourage you today, to spend your thinking time describing your starting point:

Describe your current situation in the field of your life in which you have chosen your dream and your target. Write it down. Because to do it only in your mind has very little power. Only if you are aware of where you are starting from, you can decide in which direction you need to make progress. Like the navigation system or if you are navigating with a map.

Starting point estimation is positioning

So allow yourself some time to write down all the aspects in the chosen field of your life, that come into your mind. Be dead honest with yourself. Where are you now? To do so, describe what is already good, what is reasonable, what is well worth to improve on, and where is your arse in deep shit! Yes, you read correctly. This time we also want to dig deep into the shit in your life. Because this causes the biggest pain for you. And pain is the best driver to get started and make your arse moving.

Starting Point estimation is serious work and can be painful

Even if you are NOT a masochist, you WANT this pain!

Go into the details of the pain you are experiencing and find your “WHY”: Why you MUST change it? Don’t look for the reasons why you can’t change it, instead only describe the pain you feel. Because you need it to get the power in order to get rid of the pain. This is the explosive fuel to get started. And in the beginning, you need a lot of energy to change something, which is a habit.

My starting point was: Wasting my time

My habit was, sleeping 8-10 hours per day. Changing this needs a lot of discipline, and the pain is needed, to make the first big step. My pain was the fear, to live a boring life, after the best year of my life – so far. So I increased my pain until I was ready to burn the ships behind myself. And yes, you should do so as well! As soon as you got to a certain point, on which you need to cut off the way back. So you got no choice anymore, other than to make it happen!

Getting started with your starting point

Get something to write now right now and write down the start situation as it is at the moment, including all the shit you definitely want to get rid of.

Go and DO it: Find and describe your starting point!

Because soon we will need it to implement the dream and the targets in our subconscious mind.